Am i gay or bi?

From what I can tell it seems as though you're bi, and very unwillingly so. You should try to stop being afraid of it, and probably give it a huge amount of thought. Though it must be frightening to suddenly be attracted to your friends, you should probably try to calm down and and try to accept the fact. You will be a lot happier with life if you choose to accept yourself.

 

Re: Do you think im gay or bi

I would say that you're bi...but then again....that's my opinion.

Can you see yourself marrying either one? Which one are you attracted to the strongest?

I'd suggest meeting with a counselor and he/she can help you delve into that question even farther and seek the answer you want. Good luck to you, man


P.S. nothing wrong with being gay. or bi. Go with what your heart wants.

 

Re: Do you think im gay or bi

I think you are straight like I told you in the other thread. Being attracted to transwomen is 100% the same as being attracted to women.

Lolz, do you reaaaally think the actually gay guys on here find me attractive just cuz I was born with the wrong parts, parts that happen to be meant for the gender they are attracted to? No. Obviously not. Cuz I'm a girl plain and simple :dry:.

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Btw read about HOCD. Thats what this sounds a looot more like. Not actual feelings for males but fear of feelings for them triggered by your attraction to women who HAPPEN to be trans and your own poor understanding of what it means to be a transgirl.

 

Re: Do you think im gay or bi

@jay,

Which is why it makes sense you are attracted to transwomen. Cuz we're girls. Period. deerrp.

 

Re: Do you think im gay or bi

Hun, I hate to tell you but chip's already debunked HOCD.

 

Re: Do you think im gay or bi

That definitely sounds like you're straight man. But you can stick around here if you'd like, we have some straight people here and we welcome everybody.

I do have to mention one thing, and I suspect others were considering it. Allow me to introduce you to periods and paragraphs of readable length.

 

I am officially confused: first, why am I listed as the starter of this thread in the Chit Chat index, second when did this kid become 17 instead of 18, and 3rd what happened to my post explaining HOCD and refuting its alleged debunking?

waaah, I'm soo confused XD

 

Re: Do you think im gay or bi

First and foremost, I'm glad that you came to seek help on EC instead of committing suicide. I shuttered when I read that you had thoughts of committing suicide.

I hate to say it, but this sounds like a classic case of denial. When reading your post, I couldn't help but noticing the recurring parallelism with "I have no desire to be with a man". Sounds like you're trying to convince yourself that there's nothing there when in fact there might be. I had a friend that caught glimpse of a penis and literally stared at it for quite some time before someone came up to him and was like "Yo, you gay?". He said that he would go to bed every night and repeat to himself: "I am straight I am straight I am straight". And now's he out and GLAD. This sounds pretty much what you are doing at the moment. I'm not saying that this is the same case with you as all snowflakes are different. I'm just offering a friend's example and his outcome.

You mentioned you watched gay porn but you never mentioned you watched straight porn. When you watch, what do you focus most on? When you masturbate, what makes you cum faster? You don't have to answer these questions publicly if you do not want to. But just think about your answers. What you answer to these MAY be your answer to your original question. You might be shocked at what you find, you may even be distraught about it. Whatever the case, you are who you are, you cannot change that.

Now I'm gonna offer my story: I was in your position at the exact same age, maybe even younger. I was awfully confused on what gender I liked or if I liked them both equally. I tried to mask who I was until it just exploded out of me and consumed my every thought. I was so caught up with who I was, I did poorly in school, could not think straight etc. I then got to college. There I befriended several gay friends that helped me discover who I was. Freshmen year, I really didn't do anything about it. Sophomore year, I caught myself looking more and more at gay porn. So much to the fact that I got addicted to it (I'm off it now). This past Fall, something came over me and I gladly obliged to cuddle with my friend. Stuff happened. I was so ANGRY that I ended up blaming HIM for my actions and ultimately blaming HIM for what happened that night. I then realized that I was shoving off and blaming my OWN actions on someone else for MY own personality. I then told one of my friends what I did and he suggested to test the waters. Naturally, I went to a gay social network (I chose that first because I had a strong feeling yet I was not sure). There I met this extremely nice guy (whom I still in contact with) and we set up a day to hang out so we did. I won't get into the details of what happened but we were safe and nothing sexual happened. Anyway, when I got home from the "date." I was changing my shorts and noticed I came. After that I put two and two together and found my answer. And now I'm glad I did and feel that I can conquer the world (exaggerating).

Moral of the story: Test the waters and see what you like best. Who you are is who you are, you cannot change that. The guy that I was mentioning explained it to me like this: It's like a jigsaw puzzle, some pieces may fit where they're allowed to and some pieces may fit in a different place then what you have thought. Don't try to make a piece fit where it obviously won't.

To wrap this up: I was in your exact same position. I wanted a wife and a family all planned when I was younger. I'm still the same person, only difference is, I grew into my own skin.

Sorry for the length of the reply and hope all is well.

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OMG YES,

@jay, please split your posts up into paragraphs of about 4 sentences each. I had to glide my finger across the screen just to read it. I got confused at points.

 

Well then, there's your answer, you're straight. You said you feel like you're forcing yourself and trying to masturbate to men but your wording makes it sound like you're unsuccessful. And when watching straight porn, you pretend that you're the guy. It's natural for people to watch lesbian porn and to get aroused (hell, my straight friends (and I know they're straight) watches it and they get aroused.

You're just going through a stressful phase in your life where you don't know what to call yourself. Plus it's just labels and labels are for clothes. No need to worry.

You're perfectly normal

 

You're welcome. I haven't gotten aroused by lesbian porn, my friend brought up "Two Girls, One Cup and I...I quickly looked away

 

Haha it's totally fine.

If you have any other questions regarding who knows what, feel free to post said question on my wall or make another thread.

 

DON'T rely on porn as a sole indicator for sexual orientation, especially if you have no other reasons to believe so. I've seen gay men and lesbians driving themselves insane with doubt and with similar symptoms after watching opposite-sex porn, too, especially if they worked their way their from their preferred genre. Prolonged use literally rewires your brain and arousal patterns, but that =/= "change" your orientation.

What does withdrawal from porn addiction look like? | Your Brain On Porn

You have no idea how many straight guys online lose their minds over their newly found obsession with transsexual porn. Give it a break; if you were straight before, you'll still be straight after this. Best of luck, it's a nasty habit to break.