So I got hit on by a couple of my best friends which made me realize they dabbled in doing gay things. Ever since then I've obsessed that I may be gay because I'm the last one to have gay sex. I do feel like honestly if I was gay I'd be more comfortable with myself, but then again I want to experiment to be more comfortable to get hotter girls like my friends do. I've always been a Lil awkward and have had my fair amount of girls but sedomly hot ones. I don't think I'm homophobic so I told myself ok, if I'm gay ill accept it. Went on Craigslist hooked up with a guy didnt really help my current anxiety. Last night tried to hook up with a gay guy, he wasn't really feeling it. I went to a gay club and basically said hey I want someone to do me and see if I like it. No one would which was kinda surprising, so I mean has anyone gone through this. I mean if I'm gay I don't think it'd be that bad, it'd be hard to deal with but I just want to accept the person I am. Gay, bisexual or maybe just curious? Am I in deep denial?
Well, you are definitely curious, but I think it might be a little early to classify yourself as gay, especially if you want to try out gay stuff to get hot girls But you want to figure out if you might be bisexual. I assume that when you have been with girls in the past, you`ve liked it? Girls turn you on? How did you feel when your male friends hit on you? How do you feel when you see a naked male body? Are you enticed by gay porn, guys making out, do you notice good-looking guys? Is there anything but the thought of possibly being gay, that makes you think you might be gay or bisexual? It is not that surprising that the men at that club wouldn`t bite the hook, because if you actually told them you wanted someone to do you to see if you liked it, they might have felt a bit like you were looking for volunteer lab-rats, which some wouldn`t mind, but others might object to. Hell, I know one or two who would find it very interesting in my local community, but some others again who`re looking for something serious, and therefore wouldn`t want to just hook up, at least not with slim possibilities of it turning into something more. Maybe you have a straight look, as silly as that sounds. People are generally often afraid of getting burned. Consider trying a different approach, it`s completely okay to say you`re a bit new at the dating game. Put in a smile, make sure you smell nice and look OK. But be careful! Hook ups are not safe. Not just because of the possibilities of STDs (always play it as safe as possible), but also because you don`t know the other person, who he is, if he is who/what he claims to be, his motivations, etc. So, random hook-ups can be dangerous, just keep that in mind. If you meet someone you think you like, ask him out, ask for a phone nr. just be honest about you still being in the questioning/unsure phase, or you could hurt someone. Try getting to know somebody, being gay or bisexual is NOT all about sex, it`s about emotions, about intimacy, about wanting to be close to someone emotionally as well as physically. Actually, it`s the exact same gig as being straight, only with a different gender. Sometimes it`s about sex, but sex isn`t all there is to it. So, I think first thing is figure out if you can get sexually turned on by other men. Check out some gay porn, try to run a scenario in your head, imagine yourself being with a man and try to analyse a bit how that feels. Welcome to EC, by the way
Well the thing is everyone is trying to convince me I'm gay, lately. Before this just hooked up with girls and didnt really ponder being gay. But I'm realizing maybe this is because I'm super christian and being gay was "bad". I've opened my mind since this however. So it's been a realization that people my age are more sexually free, girls and guys. Mainly girls theyre more open about it. But I tried looking at gay porn did nothing for me but I don't know if I'm fighting it or not still figuring out. As for attraction I can see if another guy was attractive but it's mainly with my friends if I'd hook up with them or not. I mean if I'm gay I'm gay, but now it's affecting me talking to girls as well. I can't talk to them because I know for a fact guys hook up with guys indescrimately and girls as well. So I feel like they know something I don't, and I can't relate. So I want to know, I want to just be normal. However with my friends I don't want to be submissive. So when they tell me things or insuate they see I'm ready, I try to turn the table on them. This girl I've been hooking up with came to me and said. Tonight you may be bottom tomorrow you may be top. Which makes since but now that I know I don't want to be bottom I feel like its demeaning ---------- Post added 13th Jun 2013 at 06:25 AM ---------- And with me it doesn't really move past sex. I've seriously talked to myself and wanted to know if I felt attraction towards guys. But with gay guys it's like I want to fuck em. But I don't want to be fucked, if that makes any sense
And what would be the difference in fucking a guy or a girl anal? If you can come up with reasons, then you might be closer to know if it´s really gay feelings you have. Is it like you want to feel better by taking guys too, like an ego boost? It doesn´t read as if you lust on men or you would love gay porn too. And you are not romanticly attracted to one or crushing on one... So it´s hard to say for an outsider....
It kind of is an ego boost. The power attracts me? The thought process of I know a gay guy would do it. But now that I know "straight" guys do it. I feel like I need to be the alpha male, but I can't be because I'm not really experienced in it. And I'm not crushing on one or romantically attached to one. It's just the sole fact I don't want to give up my shit. Without taking alot more beforehand. I guess I view it as a game per say
