When you are in public or watch a movie or look at a photo, anything that has both males and females in it, WHICH one do you notice and does it correlate with your sexual orientation? Thank you!
Anyone want to chime in? This has caused me much confusion because I thought I'm a lesbian, yet girls don't come to my view that naturally, in fact, it would guys that come into my view more often. Look at this from Kathy Belge: You Might Be a Lesbian If...
I can somewhat relate. Especially recently this has been happening. However, when I look at guys it's sometimes more like "Gee, he looks pretty damn cool (in an aesthetic/artistic sense)." or "Why can't I look cool/manly like that?" Sometime's it's as simple as "I like this guy's beard for some obscure reason." But, one thing I know about myself is that I don't particularly feel the need to ogle/stare at women all the time. I personally don't understand why people do that in general, with men or women. However, when I notice a girl that I find really attractive or I want to know her, I really notice her. It's like getting hit with a train that has a whistle saying "Pay attention to THIS particular person." So yeah, I can relate to your confusion a bit.
I look at guys more because, well, i'm attracted to them. But I also feel more like I wish I could hang out with them as friends and/or look like them. Which corresponds to me being a gay FTM (Who wishes he had more guy friends...)
I did not start looking at both men and women until I started questioning, before then I would only look at men if I felt like I met them before, or had a shirt that I was wearing. At the time I exclusively checked out women. These days; I check both because I want to see if I am, and so far; none.
My perception is all over the place. In photos or videos I look at women more when they are clothed, and the man more when the are naked. Sometimes I look at women as "hot", but sometimes they are just nice to look at, as in I recognize their beauty, but don't feel an overwhelming desire to have sex with them. Guys on the other hand I find way more appealing with their clothes off, but clothes on the can be sort of boring. I'm messed up ha ha.
