Hello, I am 23 years old (female). I have recently realised that I am attracted to a girl, and since then, I do look at girls differently. It's like, I have the same feelings as I would have on guys. Actually, as a teenager, I was more 'boyish'. But my parents changed that I would say. There were times before that (before being attracted to that girl), where I fantasized about some girls, but I would generally repress those feelings because, as you know, it's very often considered to be 'against the societal norms'. I also kind of had a crush on a lady recently. Well, that girl I mentioned earlier, we became friends. She is 'bi'. We met a few times (but nothing happened between us) and we chat everyday. I have started thinking about her everytime now. I am really confused as to whether I am a bisexual. =/ I would much appreciate some help. Is there a way that will provide myself with some clarity of who am I? Thanks, Rain31
Well, no matter what happens with this girl or if you find out if you're gay, bi, or straight, nothing will change. You will still be you. Your sexuality doesn't define you. I say just focus on this girl you like. Go with what feels natural. The world won't fall apart if you experiment (either experiment with flirting or experiment in the bedroom). Forget about labels. Go with your gut. Live your life. The only thing labels are good for is when straight people ask you if you're a lesbian. And even then, it's not a big deal. If you like this girl, go after her. If it doesn't work out, you two will break up (that's how all relationships work, gay or straight).
You're probably bisexual. I mean, you've demonstrated that you like both men and women, so… This bit really clicked with me. I'm naturally a hugely effeminate "flamer" type person in my mannerisms (though not really my interests), but I end up acting fairly masculine/androgynous at school and at home, except when I'm alone.
