Am I Straight or a Lesbian? So hard to figure out!

I understand. I am married with kids and have realized that I am just not attracted to men. It is a common place people find themselves in and being single is a big plus for you. Take your time and people watch. Look around and let yourself be attracted to people. You'll start seeing who you're attracted to.

I realized, looking back, that I have always been attracted to women. I just didn't see it.

Welcome to the family.

 

Hey there, I dated feminine men for (too) many years. I'd stop dating for years at a time and have these break downs every few years where I would question... then I'd decide no, I'm absolutely straight. Only to turn around and find the most feminine man I could to date. Several of the guys I dated turned out to be closeted trans or secretly gender queer. I thought for a long time it was just me, but it wasn't. You aren't alone. There are plenty of us. (*hug*)

 

I can honestly say I know the feeling. For the longest time I wasn't even accepting of myself and dated online, but I dated girls.. Only, letting them believe I'm a guy. That could be because I always seem to be attracted to straight girls, but even if they weren't straight I let them believe I was a guy. And I've also felt attracted to more feminine guys. I even tend to like gay guys.. But only because they act girly. xD
Anyway, hope you figure everything out in time.

 

Hey I didn't figure out I was gay until I was 26 so you are definitely not alone. If you clear your mind of any pre conceived ideas and just let yourself imagine being with anyone you like right then like your ultimate fantasy, it doesn't have to be sexual but it can be, who would that be a guy or a girl. Or if you sit in a coffee shop and just watch people go by who do you notice more girls or guys?