Ok, so for the longest time (even when I was young) I experimented. When i look back at my youth, I remember waiting to have the house to myself and i would put on my moms makeup and wear her cloths. This kind of ended once i got older. I started looking at male on male porn just to see if i liked it and I did a lot. I would masterbate to it quite a bit but afterwards I wouldn't feel gay or bi anymore. I have always dated women and even fell in love with two of them. I eventually started trying out dating websites. From there I looked in the gay categories and started talking to gay men just to kind of experiment. Well long story short, I ended up having sex with a man I met off the site. At first i was very very nervous. I just kind of sat their on his bed and he was very understanding because i told him that i have never done this sort of thing before. After I had calmed down, we had sex and I really enjoyed it. I thought right then and there that i was gay and the sex was way better than any sex i've had with women. That was the first and only time i've had sex with a guy though. I've masterbated to the thought of that encounter a lot but once again, after i finish, i don't feel gay or even bi anymore. What is wrong with me? Am i in denial or something?
I'm a lot older than you and our past behaviors have some things in common but not many. My early years were spent being married to two women and when I wasn't married, I screwed a dozen or so more. So you might say I had a lot of reasons to think I was strictly hetero. I never wanted to dress in female clothing, I played sports, considered myself reasonably tough, and I never had sexual relations with that man, to paraphrase Bill Clinton. I do remember getting awfully tingly when sitting in my car, after getting a bag on, with a male friend a couple of times. but that was it. Then, many years later, I found myself at a gay support organization in the Village in Manhattan. Don't ask how I got there, the answer is quite paranormal. For the first time in my life, I was surrounded by nothing but gay men, and a few lesbians but they don't count. I almost immediately gained an interest in jumping the gender preference fence. At that point in my evolution, I wasn't interested in anyone in particular, but more in the general concept of having sex with a penis...I mean a man. That particular someone came later, in a dark and romantic setting and, for the first time ever, I actually wanted to kiss a guy. Actually, I wanted to do a whole lot more with him, but there were too many serious people in the same room besides us. Unfortunately, I later found out that we preferred the same position, and it wasn't versatile. The real particular someone came later and he became the love of my life, after a few false starts. My point is, if you think your confused, you should talk to me more often. I'll really screw you up. I haven't a clue what I should call myself, if that really matters anymore. I used to LOVE. with capital letters, women, now I rarely look at them. So perk up, I'm sure there are a lot of us confused idiots running around who don't believe in straight (no pun intended) lines. At least I hope so.
It might just be that after you are done masturbating all of your sexual needs are satisfied, so you don't feel like having sex with a guy right then. Also, it is possible for you to fall in love with woman but just not be sexually attracted to them. The love might be more of an emotional thing. Just my thoughts and I hope they helped.
it kinda feels like I can fall in love emotionally with a girl but when it comes to the sexual part, I want it to be with a man. Does this mean that I should try and find a transgender/transsexual to date?
You show signs of being sexually attracted to men, but none for women, unless you left that out unintentionally. I'm not such a huge fan of placing people in boxes based on behavior alone, but it looks like your body wants one thing, and your heart wants another, not uncommon with gay men who haven't had much experience with same-sex relationships. Anyway, the facts: you do enjoy sex with men, you do enjoy gay porn, you did consider yourself gay at one time. Is this over labels? You don't have to commit to one now (or ever, really; forget what others want or think), but it would help to be honest with what you're attracted to and really want. Things like, "given the choice of 50 men and 50 women in a room, which would you first feel any attraction for whatsoever?" or, "Who can you see yourself sharing a future with, ideally?" There's a reason we have terms like -sexual and -romantic.
Hmm. I'm not sure what you mean by feeling gay or bi. I'm gay, but that doesn't mean I feel any particular way that I can tell. After masturbation, I'm usually satisfied and don't think in a sexual way for a while. And if I've got things to do (errands, work projects), I'm not usually thinking about sex at that point. When you were dating women, did you feel straight in some fashion? You said you really enjoyed your time with a guy. Have you thought about repeating it or do you just not feel like it? Todd
So you enjoy sex with men, but don't feel for them emotionally, and you feel emotionally for women, but don't like the sex? Or was it just that the sex with the man was better? He could have just be awesome at sex, dude. As others have already said, then not feeling gay or bi after masturbating is probably that your sexual desire has been satisfied and you don't want any more. Maybe you should try dating a man. You might find you do have feelings for men emotionally. You can only experiment, and the choice is yours.
I agree with what others have said. After you masturbate that feeling of attraction dies down, so it does not mean you don't like guys. In fact I would say having sex with a guy probably means you are at least bi.
if your looking for a lable just us bi u do like both and thats at the adjis what most straght peapl mean
