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I think I'm bisexual, but feel straight, and only watch gay porn...!

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by fountainpendude, Jul 28, 2014.

  1. fountainpendude

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    Hi, I was wondering what I am. I'm an early 30's male virgin who held off from sex because I had bad self esteem and religious constraints, but now I have a good job and have turned my life around to the extent that I'm starting to look for opportunities to have relationships. I'm confused though about my sexuality. Since I was 13, I've liked gay porn better than straight porn:

    I think that an attractive male is always more erotic than an equally attractive woman. There are many more things that I'd like to do with a man than a woman.
    Men are just sexually more interesting, but I'm aroused by women as well. But I can fantasize about a clothed male easier than a clothed female.
    Given the opportunity, I would have sex and relationships with anyone I find attractive, regardless of gender. But if there was a huge room full of attractive men and women to have sex with, I'd blaze through the males first!
    I fantasize about both sexual gay roles (top/bottom), and I frequently see people of either gender in public who I'd love to have sex with.
    I am infatuated with the sexual organs of both genders.
    Gay porn is 10000% better that straight porn, and is just plain sexier, but I'm not sure if gay porn is just better done - the guys look like they're having more fun than the women in straight porn.

    I identify to myself as bisexual with a strong male bias - does this seem accurate? Somehow I feel straight, and since I don't have any dating experience, I feel I can't identify as anything yet. Am I right to think that I'm "not straight"? I live in a very conservative (First Assembly of God) family that's very large in my small town, and am wondering if I should commit to being bisexual or if I can scrape by as straight to fit in? If not, I have the opportunity to take a job in a big city, and that might be a good option?

    Thank you!
     
  2. trojan

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    Move.
    I live far away from my parents. I guess I love them, but they would never have stopped running my life for me.
    Move to a different town and have sex with as many people as you can:slight_smile:
     
  3. Young Blood

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    I would consider you bisexual, yes. If you have an attraction, to whatever degree, be it either sexual, physical, or romantic, to two genders, you are bisexual. But sexuality is very fluid, and there is no real need to label yourself. As I have said numerous times to others, bisexuality is rarely ever 50/50, so yes, it is ok to identify as bisexual with a strong preference for males.

    As the individual above stated, I would also move. If given the chance, such as yourself, I would definitely grab it with both hands!

    I hope this helped a little :slight_smile:
     
  4. Greeley

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    I would agree with the job move, you can then just be a COMPLETELY new person. Dive into bed with an attractive guy and an attractive female, see which one you prefer actually having sex with.

    If you find yourself chatting up some girl but constantly thinking "damn, wish i was having sex with a guy" then don't force yourself to go for the girl, do what you like.

    Labels are stupid, they just confine people to groups because its easier. Its a lot more complex than labels.

    For example. I enjoy sex with men A LOT MORE than sex with women. But yet i still find latino women very attractive.
     
  5. bicomplicated

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    Well you need to try to start dating and put yourself out there and see what you like. And a move might be best. But you might very well be bisexual. Whatever you call yourself is fine. I agree. Labels aren't important. Just be yourself! :slight_smile: