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Is sexuality a choice?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by iHeartYouu, Oct 22, 2014.

  1. iHeartYouu

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    I just want to know whether sexuality is a choice as the questions had been on my mind for quite a while now. All answers appreciated.
     
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    The evidence and experiences of others suggests not, but it wouldn't matter if it were.
     
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    No, I don't believe that sexuality is a choice. There is so much hate towards homosexuality even today still, so if you could choose to be straight or another orientation, knowing that choosing to be anything other then straight is possibly going to lead you down a not good path and make your life hard and difficult, would you really choose to not be straight?
     
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    No as you are a pervert and a slave to lust and devil. Probably you are not trying hard enough to be normal and insist on your perverted ways. You are a shame to your family and God. If you pray really hard God will make you normal. :lol:

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    It isn't for me. I can't talk for others as I heard from many people that the gay guys they know claimed it is a choice... some even took it one step further and claimed I am the only one who's insisting on being born this way.
     
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    I believe its not a choice too, just need some reassurance. I think we can't help it who we are attracted to. I would wish I am straight because I know my parents and peers around me will not be supportive of me being a bi/lesbian. Its hard. But over time I guess I will learn to accept myself for the way I am.
     
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    As much as your current friends and your family is important, it is your life you will be living after all. Don't let anyone or anything put you in a place in life you don't want to be.
     
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    Yes it is a choice.
    The earth is flat.
    Welcome to the stoneages.
     
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    elaborate on why is it a choice?
     
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    I personally don't think so, but a long time ago I knew a gay guy who said it was (seriously!)
     
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    I remember ever making a choice to be gay but I certainly remember choosing to act on my feelings :slight_smile:. I think people who say it is a choice are deeply repressing their true urges. To me, this doesn't make it a choice because regardless of how you act, you are who you are deep down and eventually that person will come out.
     
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    If sexual orientation is defined by behaviors, then it can be argued that is a choice, but that depends on whether you believd in free will. Other than that, just cause it isn't a choice doesn't mean that everyone is born that way as transitional sexual orientation does not support born this way and it doesn't support choice either.
     
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    I have no memory of making a choice, although I would chose this if offered one.
     
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    I don't think so I remember being attracted to women at a very young age, however my first kiss was a guy and with my best friend at a very young age lol.

    I'm attracted to people in general but stick with Bi-sexual as saying I'm pansexual is met with "you have sex with pans ?" >.>
     
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    I'm going to have to say no...

    Next question...

    Happy days :slight_smile:
     
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    I don't believe that sexuality is a choice, people don't just wake and be like "I wanna be gay" or "I wanna be straight". But i do believe you have the choice to express you sexuality, for obvious reasons people could be gay but their environment does not allow them.
     
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    It's definitely don't think it's a choice. However there is an element of choice as to whether we choose to accept our sexuality and embrace it. But at the end of the day we can't choose who we fall for as easily as our clothes...
     
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    For me it isn't.
     
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    Not for me. I'm really the only person I can speak for, however, 100% of the gay people I've talked to have told me it's not a choice, so I think that's pretty compelling evidence. Any time I've heard someone say it is, turns out they were actually bisexual and just chose to ignore part of their sexuality. But that's not the same as choosing to be gay when you're born heterosexual (which is what homophobes try to argue).
     
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    And yea I might say its our choice to become what we are now