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Male brides maids........in bridesmaid dress

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Radioactive Bi, Oct 30, 2014.

  1. Radioactive Bi

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    So, I was having a conversation with a colleague of mine who is getting married soon and we wondered into an interesting topic. She has a few brides maids lined up but has also asked a male friend of hers to stand on her side as a bridesman (male equivalent of a bridesmaid). Now this is not too uncommon in this day and age and her friend will wear a suit similar to the ushers but with a tie and trimmings to match the bridesmaid dresses.

    However, we got onto the topic of bridesmen wearing a bridesmaid dress as I'd heard of instances where a bride has asked a bridesman to do this. So I thought I'd ask you guys what you opinion on this is. Do you think it is appropriate for a bride to ask this of a guy (please note I'm not suggesting whether it is or not)?

    Also, for the males on this site, would you wear a dress as a bridesmaid if you were asked by a good friend (especially non trans guys who don't normally wear any female clothing). If so, would you have any stipulations to do so.

    Your thoughts everyone....

    Happy days :slight_smile:
     
  2. Yosia

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    Why not? :3
     
  3. NingyoBroken

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    (I'm a Trans guy and don't wear female clothing....)

    And sure, if I had top surgery already.
     
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    First, I'd be one ugly bridesman in a dress :lol:.

    I honestly don't think I can wear a dress. It's weird how woman can be comfortable wearing dresses or men's clothing (e.g. some lesbian weddings will feature brides wearing dresses or a men's suit). However, I doubt most men are as flexible as women when it comes to wearing the opposite gender's clothing; I am one of those men.
     
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    If I were to have a bridesman he won't have to wear a dress but a suit of the same color palette
     
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    Some guys would even be afraid of wearing what I wear when I perform in public. (I play bagpipes, and wear a kilt), even though that's the same thing as one of the most feared militaries in history wore (look up the term "Ladies from Hell"). I think the question would definitely depend on the man or men involved, but if they were asked, rejection should not be unexpected.
     
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    It would be a great excuse to wear a dress. I definitely would for a good friend.
     
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    My best friend got engaged a few weeks ago and has asked me to be her maid of honour(I told her she could be my best man in my future wedding!) and if she asked me to wear a dress I would probably be up for it, it's her wedding and it would be a great story to tell.

    She hasn't mentioned anything yet but I wouldn't put it past her...
     
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    I think that some people may be supportive of it, but others would see it as a publicity stunt and maybe even laugh at the wedding. I think a suit in the same style and color as the dresses would be best. It's best to know what type of crowd is coming to your wedding, like Conservative or liberal.

    I knew a guy who had a female best man and had her wear a dress, instead of a suit, which would have been very cute. I have also seen weddings where all the bridesmaids and maid of honor wore either dresses or suits, all the same color. I have heard of them that have worn all suits, also. I know of a gal that wore a scarlet red wedding dress to her wedding. Bridesmaids in black. So, pretty much anything goes.
     
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    I really cant see myself in a dress but It has got me wondering if I get first crack at the best man mind you he would have to be handsome need to draw the line somewhere:roflmao:
     
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    i'm, like, biased, because guys in dresses are really, like... cute




    but... yes... but seriously only if i pass
     
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    Sounds fine to me, assuming the guy feels comfortable. I would not, but chances are I'll never attend another wedding, I find them so tiresome.
     
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    Sure I would wear the dress, but im not shaving my legs.:icon_wink
     
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    Hmm... DRESS
     
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    Most guys probably don't look good in dresses. But if he wants to rock it, no reason why not.
     
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    You can do whatever you want. It doesn't hurt anything. I for one wouldn't do it though.
     
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    Just to put my own answer into my question, if it was a really good friend and it meant a lot too them, I would.

    Happy days :slight_smile:
     
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    I think it's no problem, as long as he's not forced into doing it. I think he should be okay with it obviously and, it would be great if he actually looks okay in the dress so that it doesn't turn into a joke. Like Blossom said, it's good to keep in mind the people that are going to the wedding to avoid bath comments and gossip. :slight_smile:

    If I'm asked, I wouldn't mind doing it. My body is already well suited for dresses anyway, I've been confused with being a female before so, I'm sure it would look okay. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    I would look terrible in a dress.. no

    Honestly it would just turn the whole ceremony into a bit of a joke I don't think anyone would want that for their wedding :confused:
     
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    I think as long as everyone, meaning the bride, groom and the best man are all happy and comfortable with it, I don't see it being a problem.