Hello! I am new to this board, and hoping to figure things out. I'm a 35 year old woman, and have been married to my husband and high school sweetheart for 14 years. I married my best friend, loved him dearly, and just knew we'd be together forever. We have the most amazing son together. I now am now trying to come to terms with myself and the knowledge that I am pretty confident that I am gay (although I have no experience to back it up), and the even harder knowledge that this would destroy my family. I just don't want to hurt them, although at times when I am honest with myself I know that I cannot continue to live a lie in this marriage forever. I love him for what we have together, but I don't feel like I'm IN love with him anymore. I describe my discovery as "the voice" that has been in my head for the past 3 years. It was a whisper at first; I ignored it. It continued to get louder and louder until I finally had to acknowledge and listen to it. I'm finally able to admit that there is a truthfulness to it. I just don't know what to do from here. I've been in counseling since this summer, which is helping. The only other person who knows what is going on is one of my very good friends who is also a lesbian with a realization story that is eerily similar to where I find myself now. I wish I could get to the point that I know with every fiber of my being who I am, and the braveness to do what I feel is right for ME for once instead of suffering in silence to benefit everyone else. Thanks for reading!
Welcome to EC, you have found safe place to hear from others and exchange ideas. There are many that have been in a very similar situation as yourself.
Hi! I highly recommend the LGBT Later in Life forum... lots of people there with situations similar to yours.
Hello and welcome Take part... ask questions... people like to help There are really quite a few people in similar situations, you are not alone. (&&&)
Welcome! I joined this site yesterday looking for advice on my particular situation and found help pretty quick. I'm sure you will too.
Hey welcome and be surely your problems will come to end best of luck ”9¶2 you are free to express your feelings here without any difficulty
Hi there and welcome to EC, I hope you enjoy being here. This is a really supportive and friendly place and If you have any questions or just need to vent or support, we are here for you.. It would be really hard to realize this after you have been married for quite some time. Just know that we are here if you need us.
Hi, and welcome! There are many of us who are married, and have made decisions regarding whether to stay or leave a marriage.
Welcome, Rainbows! I think you will find an open and helpful group here, ready to support you in your quest for self discovery.
