Hi! I want to come out to my mom as pan, but I don't know how to explain it (pansexuality and the different genders) to someone who has been sheltered from it all their lives. She asks me a lot if I'm gay, and I always say no (which is technically true), but I can't keep lying and saying that I'm straight. Any and all help would/will be greatly appreciated.
I'm not familiar with the exact definition of pansexual, but I'm under the impression that it means you can potentially love anyone you're attracted to regardless of gender or sexual orientation. If that's correct, why not say " Mom, I like boys and girls, and transgender people too."
Mom doesn't know what a transgender person is, she thinks it means the same as porn site meaning of "Trannys" (her and dad like porn :/)
well, I think it always makes it easier when someone is asking questions. One of the biggest hurdles for me is always how I will bring it up. So when they bring it up, that moves the game one step forward. The next time she asks, you could just say, "well, not gay, but pan. do you know what that is?" And when you get the obvious confused look and negative response, you can explain what it is. or print out the link that is posted above, or something like that, and hand it to her when she asks the question (pulling out a copy from your pocket, you can hand it to her as you get yourself some milk and cookies and settle in for a long winter's nap)
