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That one friend

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by JayR, Dec 19, 2014.

  1. JayR

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    That one attractive friend you're resisting the urge to have a crush on. bc seriously you can't destroy a beautiful friendship. You guys experienced this?
     
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    Yeah. :/ it never ends well for me though.
     
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    oh yeah :frowning2: going through that right now
     
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    oh i that so. i've had also a crush/love on a friend of mine,things didn't go well. i ruined the friendship. but i think the best way to prevent it is to suppress the mere "thought" of having a crush on them in the early stages. that applies to my new friend, bc i dont wanna go with the same process.
     
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    I always end up doing something stupid :/
     
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    My best friends are both beautiful. Not underestimating in any way. fml
     
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    My best friend is also beautiful and she told me I made her question her sexuality.. though I'm not sure if there are any sparks there or if I can see us together.
     
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    Let's imagine for a second that I did in fact have a friend, and that this friend was in fact actually beautiful. I can say for certain that I'll most probably hit on them.

    Life is too short to live in regret...
     
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    Totally. But i keep quiet out of some sort of nobility. I mean, I am totally in love with her, but my platonic love completely outweighs my absent minded fantasies, and I respect her and value our relationship way to much to do entertain the idea.

    I've just kind of accepted i'll always be in love with her, and it's just a natural thing that will be there forever but won't affect our relationship. But, boy, does it hurt sometimes!!!

    It's stupid, because my other best friend I love just as much platonically, but because I'm actually in love with the other friend my feelings go a lot more deeper and I sometimes catch myself caring about her more than the other one. Which is stupid, because she is not my favourite, I don't have favourites.

    But… in the end, i guess everyone is in love a little bit with someone they shouldn't be.
     
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    My emotions have comitted seppuku numerous times in the past over this
     
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    Nah, all my friends are either unattractive or so deep into the "friendzone" they are never getting out of it. Mostly unattractive tho.

    This made me laugh for some reason.
     
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    Kind of going through it right now. A couple years back, I started to like her after we got real close. But there was this misunderstanding we had, and we avoided each other for a year. During that one year, I thought my attraction to her will soon fade. Now I realised I was more than wrong. Now all things cooled down and we're close more than ever.

    I'm currently crushing on her real hard, resisting but failing.
     
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    Nah, my friends either lack depth of character, or they are homophobic, or they don't like me as I am. So no, not really.
     
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    I am just going through that with a friend. I find her quite beautiful.
     
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    yes! I have this one friend, who i have known for quite a few years now, but only recently have realised my feelings for him. I have got to know him a lot better this year, and I found he is very warm and gentle, things i like. He is also very funny. I came out to him a few months back, and had suddenly developed very strong feelings for him. I guess it was the trust of telling him, and how nice he was about it. He has become more affectionate toward me, but of course he has a girlfriend. I sometimes see how caring he is towards her and wishes that could be me. So i guess i already am crushing on him. I try not to though, i wish i didn't. But its reached that point where i care for him enough such that i would never try anything. I still get sad though, he is perfect for me. Straight crushes are the worst.
     
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    Oh yeah! I've been in love with my best friend for about 18 months.... I keep hoping it will wear off. Yes, he knows....no, it's not reciprocated.... but he has been very understanding about it. The funny thing is he is so not my "type" ....but when I'm around him that doesn't seem to matter ( sigh!)
     
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    yes,but I'm to shy to ever do anything about it.