Is someone not a pedophile if they only touched 3 kids inappropriately ?

It's disturbing that some in this thread find it a laughing matter.

He should be put in jail for life. I don't understand why we have statutes of limitations. This guy admitted to it, so put him away.

Once a molester, always a molester. There are a small minority of people attracted to children that do not act on it, but they are the exception than the rule.

 

How would you know? You probably pass by people every day who are sexually attracted to children and do not act on it. Nobody is going to admit to being a pedophile, even if they have never touched a child in their life.

Most people have this remarkable ability known as self-control. There's no reason why a pedophile cannot control their urges in the same way everyone else does. People with these feelings and urges need help, not condemnation. If society wasn't so incredibly paranoid about every other person on the street being a potential child molester then we could probably stop people from doing horrible things in the first place.

He molested children, so should be punished accordingly, but I'd be more sympathetic if this person actually felt bad for what he did. Some people go around buggering children and don't give two shits.

 

WTF. That's really strange! He's still a pedophile. Also, he's a child molester. It seems that he's trying to justify his behaviour and pull the wool over our eyes. Talk about rubbing salt in the wound! I will not be deceived. He crossed the line and did these vile actions. He can't undo the harm he caused, no matter what he says.

 

I hate hearing about stuff like this, he should hav went 2 prison. Stuff like this can mess ppl up. It's like saying "I shot 3 ppl, but it's ok because I wont do it anymore" I would be punished if i did that, and so should he 4 wat he did

 

I for one believe in rehabilitation over punishment. The goal shouldn't be to put people in prison and punish them. That is an old way of thinking. It serves society to a greater extent to rehabilitate them and keep track of them. In a technological society like today, keeping track of someone isn't too hard. Is he a pedophile? Yes. Is every pedophile unchangeable/bound to touch children? No. I'm not defending his actions, I have very personal experiences telling me that it is wrong. I just don't think the death penalty/locking someone up forever solves the problem much.

 

I see this as, if he were caught, he would be a convicted pedophile if he touched even one girl.

What's the difference, convicted or not?

 

Well, if I had sex with a woman it would not make me straight or bisexual. As pissed off as this analogy may make people, bear with me. Just because he had sex with children does not technically make him a pedophile. A pedophile is someone with an attraction to children. I don't know enough about the case, but he may have taken advantage of these girls because he had the opportunity or whatever reason. He may not necessarily have a sexual attraction to children. However, as people said, he is a child molester. Who knows if he actually has a specific attraction to children.

To be technical, isn't a pedophile someone who is attracted to children? And a child molester is a person who has sex with children. Thus, a pedophile is not necessarily a child molester either.

This question is pretty silly...

 

What what what?!

Well, as others have said, pedophilia is attraction to young people. So if he still has the attraction, even though he's suppressing it, he's still a pedophile. As Nightdream said, he's a child molester, too. Years ago I volunteered at a hospital for kids with behavioral issues, the girl I worked with was 5 and had been molested repeatedly by someone close to her. Having seen the effect it can have, god, just *one* act of inappropriate touching is horrendous. "Only three girls"? Ugh.

 

I agree with others. He is a child molester. Who cares if technically he is a "pediphile" or not? Whether he touched one child or three, it was horrible. He should not be trying to downplay this. Horrible.

 

If he is not a pedophile, that would make it the act even worse. Not by much mind you, it is horrible regardless. And the effect it has on the girls is no different.

What I mean is... If he did that, and he has no attraction, then... Why? Did he do it just because he wanted to hurt them? I think that makes him an even worse person then if he was doing it for his own satisfaction.

But again, I am not defending pedophiles who molest children. I am just saying, as bad as they are, a child molestor who is not a pedophile is even worse.

So if he is "defending himself" by saying what he said... Well, in my eyes, it has the opposite affect.

 

It is a sad situation. This guy was well respected in the industry and all the sudden we hear he is a pervert. It does not matter if it was three or one that person would be a considered a pedophile. He probably will lose his career but probably won't be charged with anything depending on the statute of limitations. I used to watch 7th heaven as a kid and liked the show so it just all shocking.

 

I wouldn't either.

 

All I have to say about him is... Stranger danger!! D:

Seriously, that's like saying "Well you know, I ritualistically stabbed three people to death, but I'm NOT a serial killer!"

 

Now while I do not condone or support what this guy did in any way, shape, or form, as I myself was raped by a cousin as a child, I must still say that not all who victimize children are pedophiles.

As I said earlier in this thread (And I would have elaborated more, but I was on my phone) a pedophile is someone over age 16 who is attracted to prepubescent children. While there are a great deal of molesters who abuse children to satisfy their sexual desires, a large number of abusers feel that they're tormented souls and have gone through so much trauma in their lives that the only way for them to make themselves feel better is to inflict the same amount of pain and suffering that they feel on someone else. It's a very sadistic, sociopathic worldview, however it's very, very common among rapists/child molesters. They target children because they're the easiest and most vulnerable targets.

Rape is about power and control, not so much sexual desires, and so it is important to note that someone who victimizes children isn't necessarily a pedophile unless they fit the diagnostic criteria set forth by the mental health professionals. I don't know if this guy's a pedophile, I'm not a therapist and more importantly I'm not his therapist.

I'm not taking sides or defending this guy in the least bit, I'm only stating facts for each to interpret for themselves. So please do not take this post the wrong way or think that I defend/sympathize with people who exploit the most vulnerable segment of our population.

 

Yes, he is a pedophile.

 

He did an act of child molestation three times and should be punished accordingly. It doesn't necessarily make him a pedophile unless he has an ongoing attraction to children. If that is the case then he should have rehabilitation and support to help him to stay clear of any awful cases.

I do not agree with the 'once a molester, always a molester' thing, as that is just saying that no-one can change, but people can and do. Obviously they will always be registered as a child-molester, however they could have rehabilitated and changed altogether.

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I hope he gets punished for the three cases, and then has the support needed to not perform acts like this again.

 

This is a difficult one. I mean I accept that a person has no control as to what he or she is attracted to, but I think in most cases, that person does have a great deal of control as to whether they act on whatever attractions they have.

If he is attracted to those underage but doesn't act on his "desires", then is he still I paedophile?
Is a guy who thinks about rape a rapist if he suppresses those same desires?

Some people have had those thoughts (usually in rage) where you could literally kill someone you hate, yet obviously you don't do it. But are you still a murderer?

Those who harbour dark sexual thoughts to the underage need some sort of counselling in my view. And I don't think they should be called Paedophiles, I think a new word needs to be found for them.

However, I do think that those who do commit rape or sexual assault should be dealt with severely.

 

Four, four is the required amount to molest before you can consider yourself a Pedophile.

Someone needs to arrest him so he can meet some really nice guys in the big house, who will only touch him a few times, so he can't say they are rapists......

 

He may not be a pedophile but he's definetly a perv. :dry: