hi sorry if this is in the wrong place.. first a little back ground on me.. my family never ever talked about sex and I was always taught to treat women with respect and dignity etc and even though they(my parents ) were never church goers I always went to my local christian church mostly for the companion ship and the music, I have always tried to help out in my local community, also with a local community fm radio station too , If my church had found out I was sleeping with guys at the time I was there, I'm sure I would have been kicked out of the music team ... any way that part of my life has finished now.. I still do music and radio stuff, will always love that I'm in my 40's now and still learning where to put my penis when with a woman and what a vagina looks like up close, this kind of stuff is never really taught at school and vagina's are still a little scary for me! I grew up thinking I was gay until my mid 30's as always only ever had sex with guys ,friends growing up etc.. when I decided I wanted to try a woman, or see what a woman looked like naked for real, rather than just porn on the net all the time, I went to a brothel and lost my virginity there. I now wish I hadn't of done that but I guess for me I did what I thought I needed to do. I don't know if I'll ever have a girl friend,as much as I'd like one as I consider myself bisexual now.. some times I'd like a boyfriend, just for some company, ie at home or when traveling ... I've done a fair bit of that over the years. In the back of my mind I would have loved to have my own family like my brother or my friends in real life, but it never happened for me. I was quite happy to have the occasional with either guy or girl, but after reading this article now,I don't know what to think about sex , ie PIV, penis in vagina ..sounds strange for me. I know most people fall in love make love and get married and have kids and hopefully enjoy sex with each other but this article really makes the guy sound like a real bad thing... just don't know what to think of this anymore... confused at this article thoughts?:eusa_doh: https://witchwind.wordpress.com/2013/12/15/piv-is-always-rape-ok/
If you are truly looking for a partner, then try not to put sex in the picture. Sex can be good or bad, it depends on who you're having sex with and how much you know the person. Sex in itself is only based upon arousal. It feels good, so that's where the porn industry thrives. The term sexual orientation in itself is complex. Some may just base it on sexual fantasies, others may desire a relationship first and then look forward to the sex. I personally believe that sexual orientation cannot be limited to sexual fantasies, because that is where people get confused the most. They can imagine themselves in a position where they didn't think they could, and then in reality it goes against when they believed. Instead, base your sexual orientation on whom you would want to spend your entire life with. Forget about sex, it's not like you'll have time for it every day for the rest of your life. Come to think of it, that would make me very tired! But in all seriousness, I think a majority of the successful relationships stem from a emotional and romantic bond between two people. Sexual attraction definitely plays a role, but it is not as significant as the abstract part of a relationship.
I think the first thing you need to remember is that a piece of paper (or a computer screen) will sit there and let you write anything you want on it, no matter how stupid or illogical. The author of this article sounds rather hate filled actually as well as little different from the various bigots who take it upon themselves to tell LGBT people the 'real' reasons that we do things or are things or whatever. As long as you are only engaging in sex with age appropriate and consenting partners, you should be fine. Todd
Feminist here. I'll start off by saying that while some feminist and possibly some nonfeminist women do hold the opinions stated in the article, most women who are attracted to men do not (not to say that women who are attracted to women necessarily do hold these opinions), unless, of course, it's nonconsentual. There are also women who are attracted to men who dislike PIV for completely different reasons. It very much varies between individuals. The best thing you can do is to talk to your female partner (or future partner if you don't have one), and get her take on it. If you don't want to bring up the article, you can simply ask her what she does and doesn't like in regards to sex. Hope that helps!
