I've recently come to the conclusion that I'm probably gay. I've never had sex of any kind, and my sex education was pretty much nonexistent. I sort of get how sex works between two women, but I'm not sure. What precautions should I take if a have sex with a woman? How exactly does it work? Does oral have to happen? How do you know when you're done?
You may want your partner to be tested. Their are these things called dental dams (if you're going for "safe" sex). Oral doesn't have to happen but is an option. I suppose technically toys and hands, etc are also an option. You know your'e done when you've both climaxed and don't want to continue, same as with a man. All this is theoretical for me, but hope I helped.
They're basically rubbery, thin squares that you can put between your mouth and the vulva of your partner during sex, kind of like a condom in a sense. I hear they're similar to siran wrap (or that can be used as a substitute), but no personal experience. Just make sure whoever you're with has been tested and you should be good. Someone with more experience may be able to help you more. You said you're not entirely sure how it works I think. Basically, you just do what makes each other feel good: kiss each other, kiss each other's necks and other body parts, you can use your hands to make each other feel good down there and toys and oral sex are also an option. It will probably come more easily when you get there, like knowing when to stop so don't stress about it. When you're with someone, you guys may not know exactly what makes each other feel really good right away and that's something you learn more by trying to do different things and communicating. But really, don't stress about it. Hope some of this helped!
Sex between two women, for me at least, is more than just playing with each other's privates. Sex should be a full body experience, and the first time with someone new often ends up being a lot of trial and error. Don't just focus on the genitals, use your hands and mouth (And maybe other parts) to test your partners body, find out where they are sensitive. For me, I'm sensitive in my neck, stomach, thighs, and feet, but everyone is different. As for the... "Main Area," Fingers are the basic and most essential tool, but toys and tongues are always an option as well. Just make sure you and your partner are both tested, showered, and ready before beginning.
Should I still be tested if I've never had sex? And how do you know what to do exactly during the first time?
First of all, it's very important to look for this information and be determined to educate yourself. Scissoring (that thing in lesbian porn where two women rub their vaginas together) is not a thing. It's not real. If you ever try it, you will discover that it is mostly just messy. Lesbian sex usually consists of three things: Oral sex, fingering, and the use of penetrative and non-penetrative sex toys (dildos, vibrators, massagers, etc.). I'll go through a quick crash course of what safe sex looks like with each of these methods. Oral sex: The safest way to perform cunnilingus is with a dental dam, which is an extremely thin square of latex that you hold slightly slack over your partner's vulva, so you can stimulate her clitoris with your tongue without actually making contact between mucous membranes. Dental dams help prevent sexually transmitted infections that can be contracted in the tissues of your mouth, like herpes simplex and HIV. However, dental dams are sometimes hard to find, and are more expensive than condoms (because people actively care less about women's health than men's). If you can't find any, cut open a latex glove. Works just as well. Fingering: You can't really contract diseases fingering someone, but if you bite your fingernails, you have tiny open places in the skin around and underneath your nails, so using a latex glove when penetrating your partner with your fingers can stop the spread of any infections spread through the blood, like HIV and HPV. If you're not a nail biter and you don't have any cuts on your hands, you should be okay. Just always make sure your hands are nice and clean and soft. Sex toys: Basically, just take good care of your toys. This goes for anyone, whether you are using them with a partner, or for masturbation. Keep them clean, and make sure you know what kind of lube to use with which toys. Have fun, and don't be afraid to ask questions and look things up. Masturbate lots. Use a hand mirror to check yourself out down there. Figure out what you like and what feels good before you have a sexual partner.
