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What's with bottoming?

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by IIcewater, Jul 22, 2016.

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  1. Chip

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    I'm curious as to the source of your data on that assertion. I think (pun intended) that you're full of shit.

    Again, what a complete load of crap. Clearly you don't understand how erectile dysfunction drugs work; they don't guarantee an erection, they only help to dilate blood vessels to make it easier to get an erection. There are plenty of people (porn models and regular folks) who take Viagra or Cialis and still find it impossible to maintain an erection. Want a source on that? Read any of the clinical literature looking at the effectiveness of ED drugs and the interaction with psychological factors. Hell, for that matter, reading the package insert will tell you that.

    Again, I'm curious as to the source of your deep knowledge of the porn field, because you are, once again, dead wrong. There's no physical risk for bottoms that does not exist for tops, and zero credible information I'm aware of to support the idea that anal sex contributes to hemorrhoids. Do you even understand the physiology behind how hemorrhoids develop? (My information is sourced firsthand from a number of people who have worked in the industry, and from medical professionals.)

    If you have any credible sources for anything you're asserting, please offer them up. Otherwise, please stop presenting your personal opinions and biases as fact.
     
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    Or maybe he tought that the fact of being a transgender female means that you can't enjoy being on top, when in fact some trans girls enjoy it (which it wouldn't be my case).

    But well being bottom it doesn't mean anything just the way you like and feel your sexuality... An example is that I would be confortable only with bottoming whether or not it's or a girl or a guy, and wheter or not I go thru SRS (sexual reassignment surgery).
     
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    Sick burn! I love puns!

    *high-fives Chip*
     
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    It's all about preference. I understand the op's point of view though about being used. I consider bottoming something I only want to give to someone I really care about, so that's why I won't bottom for hookups. Not that I won't bottom at all btw.

    I have high standards though :/
     
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    What do you mean by "used"? As far as I'm concerned, it's two consenting adults, and one prefers the receptive role. You have your preferences (topping), and we have ours. When it comes to coming, well, it depends... some need a bit of "manual" help, while others are able to. Besides, there's more to it than just that.

    And yes, preparation can be tiresome, but it's totally worth it for those of us who want to get the most out of the experience. I don't see it as anything different than say, brushing your teeth, putting on nice clothes, and wearing deodorant, or whatever, before going out.
     
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    That's an acquired taste.
     
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    Teeth brushing takes much less time than butt cleaning, doesn't it?

    But what about you? If you write here that topping is more exhausting physically but in real life you are a 95% top, that's very... ughh :bang: The bottom can "work" as much as the top, it all depends on the poses.

    Excuse me, what data? When a bottom's butt is clean, he has cleaned it recently. Do you mean that any bottom doesn't need the prep? You rarely bottom, i think.

    Sorry for my possible rudeness :/

    Excellent! I'm not the only one who can't get bottoming for strangers.
     
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    Hmm, depends. Planning ahead helps, at least if we're comparing it to standard penile masturbation. Luckily, I don't eat much, and am quite OCD about my body, and wouldn't want my partner to get grossed out, anyway.

    Some say douching helps, but it's not technically necessary. A hot shower beforehand could work wonders. Just be sure your bowels emptied, so if this means going to the restroom beforehand... And yeah, lube. Lots of it. Finger aren't necessary, but I'd much rather use them than my own penis (it's complicated).

    Anyway, prostate orgasms are a-m-a-z-i-n-g, but even if I don't have one (I only have them maybe 1/3 of the time I masturbate), the feelings are still amazing and unlike anything else. A part of it might be mental.
     
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    I don't understand what's so hard to understand. I'm Gay and 100% a total bottom. It's what sexually makes me happy. I don't top ever, I don't like it. I like bottoming, and giving and receiving oral. And anyone who says you can't cum from anal isn't doing it right lol. Not to mention sex isn't always about a orgasam. Sometimes it's fun to just be intimate with someone. Some days I just want to feel "full" and have sex. I've never been ashamed of my sexuality and what I like. Everyone is different.
     
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    Uh, no, and my personal experiences aren't relevant to this conversation.

    If you read our article on prepping for anal sex in the articles section, (which, I should point out, was written by a gay medical professional with extensive experience in the field), you'll see that enemas aren't necessary under most circumstances. Some men do choose to do them, but many do not.

    The level of ignorance shown in your posts in this thread is pretty astounding.
     
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    Hmm, this article is ok, but some people (couples) have bareback sex. I'm not sure that in such cases just going to the toilet is enough, so bottoming takes much time to prepare (up to half an hour).

    ---------- Post added 23rd Jul 2016 at 03:10 AM ----------

    Anyway, millions of people didn't read this article and can think like i do.
     
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    You should NEVER bareback. EVER. Under any circumstances. HIV is at It's highest risk with anal sex, even if you are 'monogamous' people lie and go behind your back all the time. And even if neither had HIV, there's still a risk of UTI's and other issues that can be spread.

    Use. a. condom. every. time. All of these issues would be solved.
     
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    But some people do bareback. So, they use enema when they are going to bottom, don't they?

    I think that if to follow the advice from that article on this forum, there'll be some stains on a condom afterwards. Maybe a bad smell too.

    Well.
     
    #33 IIcewater, Jul 23, 2016
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    Well said! (Especially for a lesbian. :icon_wink)
     
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    I have bareback sex with my boyfriend. I've never done an enema before hand. The most I do is using the washroom a few hours beforehand and a small clean. The whole process is less than 5 minutes really. There has never been a mess, smell or anything like that. I'm sure one day it may happen, but it isn't something that happens often in my experience.
     
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    What a small clean? Are you on a high fiber diet?
     
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    I eat very poorly, frozen meals and fast food mostly. A small clean is using a baby wipe just to make sure I'm clean before hand.
     
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    That is, you clean only outside? I can't believe that it's enough for you to be clean. I have some shit down there almost always when i try to find it out by putting one finger. I'm not lucky.
     
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    I STILL think you should be using condoms.
     
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    OP, you have no idea what you're talking about. Get some experience before coming before coming here and making insane generalizations.
     
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