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Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Snow, Jan 22, 2017.

  1. Snow

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    On Saturday, January 28, I am going to send a lovely little email to my parents. I won't be in the house, because I volunteer at the hospital, so then I get back that evening, they would have had time to absorb it.

    ...I'm sh*tting enough bricks to build Trump's wall.
     
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    Good luck! I think it's a great idea to do it through writing and give your parents a little bit of time to digest everything before reacting. I hope it goes well. :slight_smile:
     
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    Good luck! Just don't shit enough to make second wall of china or trump will have a field day.
     
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    I hope all go well for you, Snow!:slight_smile:
     
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    Sounds like a good idea, good luck and I hope everything will turn out alright!
     
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    Good luck, your plan looks good! And please tell us how it goes!

    And, also...please don't send those bricks to Trump. Help South America instead: Send them to Brazil so we can isolate Dark Lord Temer from the rest of the world :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    :lol:

    Good luck!
     
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    Good luck, and I hope all goes well for you!
     
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    4 days...
     
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    It's done. Ive sent the email.
    Oh my god, I'm shaking
    They've acknowledged the email, but we haven't talk yet.
     
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    We are rooting for you! :slight_smile:
     
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    Good for you! I'm glad you found the courage to do this. :slight_smile:
     
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    We are definitely all rooting for you!! :grin:
     
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    Wishing you luck.
     
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    Proud of you!
     
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    So, all has been said and done.
    I had a long conversation with my parents. They think it's a phase I'm going though, but if I fell the same way in a year or two, then it's ok if I'm gay. The worst part is that my mum felt hurt that I didn't speak to her in person and that I have been carrying this burden on my shoulders for the past two years. I'm very close with my mum, but I just didn't have the guts to tell her. I felt horrible that I didn't tell her in person, so many tears were wept and many bricks were shat.
     
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    Congrats! Even if it wasn't exactly smooth sailing I'm sure that's a huge weight lifted off your shoulders. :slight_smile:

    It's disappointing that your mom thinks this is a phase, but at least she was open-minded about it and you know she'll be okay once it sinks in that you're actually gay. Just give her some time to come around. I can understand why she might feel hurt that you weren't able to talk to her about this in person, but chances are she can't relate to holding in a secret like that. The important thing is that you were able to push through and do it; in the long run that's the only thing that's going to matter.
     
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    Hey Snow, Congratulations!:thumbsup: That took a lot of courage and I hope you feel some relief by Coming Out to your parents! Their reactions were clearly to unassumingly accepting, but at least they didn't react negatively. It sounds like they just need time to process what you told them.

    In terms of your Mom being upset about you not being able to tell her directly, don't take that too hard, please. First, this is about YOU, not her. Second, she clearly doesn't understand just how deeply emotional this issue is for us.

    Do you think you could provide your parents some literature to help educate them about having an LGBTQ child? (For example, if you could download and print the Our Children pamphlet from PFLAG, do you think you could get them to read it in the interest of better understanding?)

    I wish you all the best!:slight_smile:
     
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    Congratulations! :slight_smile:
     
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    Congratulations! :grin: