So in 7th grade I started labeling myself as bi because I knew I liked girls but I didn't think about the fact that I have never had feelings about a guy that I have had for girls. So is it more changing my sexuality or finding myself? I am still not even positive I am full lesbian because what happens if I meet a guy and I think I feel something then am I going to have to question myself again. I dont know what to do if I label myself queer is that open to anyone because I am not sure...Any input?
General opinion around this site is that it's more you finding yourself than changing sexuality. I tend to agree. "Queer" leaves a lot of room, which is why maybe it's the best for now. Because, exactly like you say, what if THE guy, or maybe the guy, comes along? And "then am I going to have to question myself again." Yes, and aargh. Well as time goes by you'll have a clearer idea if that's even possible.
You're still very young, and your hormones are still all over the place. So if I were you, I wouldn't slap a label on it just yet. Maybe wait till you're a little older (say, around 17 or 18). Your hormones may still affect how you feel but not as much as it does now. I agree that you can get away with queer, though most people would assume that means gay (lesbian), so maybe not the best label to go with after all. I was very confused about my sexuality until I was around 16/17, and I got my first girlfriend then but after we broke up I went back into the closet, and only started exploring it again in my 20s, when I had my second (and probably last) girlfriend. I thought I was lesbian at that stage, because I was in my "attracted to women" phase. It wasn't until later (around the time my girl and I broke up) that I realized I'm more interested in men, and I had to come out to everyone a second time, this time as bisexual. I'm telling you this because I don't want you to go through the same thing I went through with having to come out twice, and most likely confusing everyone close to me. As a result, very few people "buy" that I'm bisexual. They think I'm simply keeping my options open. So don't rush finding a label. I don't know, it's hard to really advise you on this, since you're still so young. It's more complicated when you're not fully settled hormone-wise. Just give yourself time. You will figure it out eventually and be happy. (*hug*)
God I hate labels! I haven't had a guy in 5 years but my EC orientation still says bi. Am I still bi? If I knew the answer to that I'd be a very wise woman indeed. Don't worry about labels. Let your mind and body make the choices for you and wherever that places you on the sexual spectrum just enjoy it.
