Non-binary or gender non-conforming?

How.do you feel within yourself? Do you feel like you have a gender and if so is it male, female or possibly both.

I know that when I look within myself I have no gender. I was born into a female body, I prefer men's clothes however I do not feel female or male in the slightest

 

Non-binary is a form of gender non-conforming, so you can be both if you feel that way.

 

In my opinion it all comes down to how you see yourself and how you want others to perceive you. While gender non-confirming and nonbinary people can act and present similarly, the reason why they do so may vary greatly.

If you want to be seen as am woman, no matter what clothes you wear and which things you do, that would make you gender non-conforming while you still were a woman. If you act different from what society expects from women because you want people to stop associating you with the label "woman", that would suggest you're not a cis woman and e.g. nonbinary.

A good way to notice in which of these categories you belong is to ask yourself if you like it when people call you a woman. If it makes you happy / feels right you're probably gender non-conforming. If you get annoyed or angry it's more likely you're some kind of nonbinary

As you were also asking for experiences, I'd like to explain to you why I identify as nonbinary: During my childhood I did a lot more things that are seen as masculine than feminine. By now that has changed and I do about the same amount of stereotypically masculine and feminine things (though I don't see any of these activities, behaviours and character traits as something masculine/feminine. They are just what makes me me). However I don't identify as nonbinary because I have these character traits. I identify as nonbinary because I hate being referred to as a girl/woman/female and being referred to as male feels wrong as well. I identify as nonbinary because I can't say "I am a woman" or "I am a man" without feeling like I lie to myself. Even if I wear a dress, I still feel like a person in a dress, not a woman in a dress.

I hope that helped a little! Good luck with figuring things out

 

Correct me if I'm wrong but to me it sounds like you do identify with being a woman and just don't want to present stereotypically feminine? If that's the case, I guess it would make you a gender non-confirming woman.

However, I'm not an expert and in the end it's you who needs to decide how you call yourself. If a label helps you to understand yourself better, that's great. If not, that's also fine. You don't need al label to be who you are.

 

A lot of women aren't interested in stereotypically female things, and a few women don't have feminine mannerisms. But they might consider themselves women since they want to be called women and don't want biologically male bodies.

I mean, my best friend and I are BOTH women, but we aren't that feminine acting. We talk about (and do) things that appeal more to men, which is why most of our friends are men outside of each other.

But neither of us want male bodies. We don't want a dick, testosterone, facial hair, or...being called he/him. That's the biggest indicator.

Hell, you could be a trans man and be the biggest feminine stereotype ever- some trans guys love make-up, dresses, and gossiping about whoever. And some cis men do too.

But there's still a sense of social or physical dysphoria about these guys. So that's what you need to figure out.