Johneh came out :O

Johneh · 8th Feb 2010, 08:39 PM

Hey, so I was reading through some of the stories and tought it was about time I posted mines.

Where to start..

I finally came out on the 1st of January 2010. It has been the greatest thing to happen to me in my lifetime so far. It all started after dinner. Me, my mum, my sister and her husband where sitting in the kitchen having a laugh like always. I kept checking my phone for texts and my sister jokingly made a comment "John is that you girlfriend or boyfriend!" and I didn't really say anything. I don't remember exactly how it got to being like a serious question though. So, anyway they kept asking me because I would not say anything. The next question from my sister was "John, do you like boys?" and I just said yes. I then started crying like 11 years of self hate and depression had been released and my sister and mum gave me a hug. After that it was fine and we all started joking about it. They couldn't have been better reaction wise, it was really no big deal to them. They told the rest of my family for me and everyone else was fine with it aswell.

I know the story seems pretty straight forward but I have been suffering depression for many years and I think most of it was to do with my sexuality. To have them be really cool with it was the best thing in the world and it meant so much to me. I have now came out on myspace, I just need to do it on facebook.. haha.

Thanks for reading, I'm not really good at telling stories so I hope this all made sense.

RaeofLite · 8th Feb 2010, 08:47 PM

Aw. What a positive story.

I think you'll find many users on EC deal with depression and other issues so you're not alone.

Welcome to the start of freedom.

Prccgeek · 8th Feb 2010, 10:22 PM

I didn't think it was that simple. I thought it sounded wonderful! I am glad it went well for you and that your family was so supportive. I have come out after someone asked me as a joke before too. It can be a little intense b/c you didn't see their joke coming and they didn't see your answer coming, but it sounds like it all worked out! So Congrats!

EM68 · 9th Feb 2010, 04:45 AM

Congrats on coming out to your family! Its a great story.

NeonCookies · 9th Feb 2010, 04:50 AM

Congratz it is the best thing in the world when your family accepts you for who you are i am glad it went so well for you

Johneh · 9th Feb 2010, 06:56 AM

Thanks alot, it's great feeling that I don't have to hide everything and be paranoid about being found out.

**padre411** · 9th Feb 2010, 07:14 AM

Congratulations. You did it way before I did. I managed to keep the secret until I was 46 and it has really taken its toll. I am so glad you are on your way to living your life, not someone else's expectations of your life.

Peace, Mike

**Jim1454** · 9th Feb 2010, 08:28 AM

That's SO awesome! I'm glad they came out and asked you, and that you had the courage to be honest with them. Way to go!!!

bouncingsouls · 9th Feb 2010, 09:43 AM

While i'm really happy for you and all, i'm also quite disappointed. When I saw the title of this thread I thought one of the jonas brothers had come out. *sighs* i'll have to keep waiting.

**Mirko** · 9th Feb 2010, 10:00 AM

Congratulations! What a great coming out story! It's great that you could come out to your sister and mom. Awesome!

Eromyn · 9th Feb 2010, 05:05 PM

Congrats!!

That's the way every coming out should go. And most importantly I really hope this sets you down the road to recovery from self-hatred and depression and gives you every chance to be the strong person you were meant to be!

You now need to go to my poll (somewhere down this forum or the Support forum) and add your positive results. Let's make it official!

RaeofLite · 9th Feb 2010, 06:56 PM

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Originally Posted by bouncingsouls

While i'm really happy for you and all, i'm also quite disappointed. When I saw the title of this thread I thought one of the jonas brothers had come out. *sighs* i'll have to keep waiting.

I don't even follow them but the first time I saw them I thought I bet you one or two out of the three are at least bi...

seadog · 9th Feb 2010, 09:27 PM

Yeahhh baby! Live Free or Die! Congrats.

Johneh · 12th Feb 2010, 07:32 PM

Thankyou all for the really nice comments. I'm so glad that it went well and that it's over. I'm still not sure if I can get over that I actually came out. Still in shock. haha

8th Feb 2010, 08:39 PM	#1
Johneh Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Family only Location: Edinburgh Age: 19 Posts: 26 Join Date: Dec 2009	Johneh came out :O Hey, so I was reading through some of the stories and tought it was about time I posted mines. Where to start.. I finally came out on the 1st of January 2010. It has been the greatest thing to happen to me in my lifetime so far. It all started after dinner. Me, my mum, my sister and her husband where sitting in the kitchen having a laugh like always. I kept checking my phone for texts and my sister jokingly made a comment "John is that you girlfriend or boyfriend!" and I didn't really say anything. I don't remember exactly how it got to being like a serious question though. So, anyway they kept asking me because I would not say anything. The next question from my sister was "John, do you like boys?" and I just said yes. I then started crying like 11 years of self hate and depression had been released and my sister and mum gave me a hug. After that it was fine and we all started joking about it. They couldn't have been better reaction wise, it was really no big deal to them. They told the rest of my family for me and everyone else was fine with it aswell. I know the story seems pretty straight forward but I have been suffering depression for many years and I think most of it was to do with my sexuality. To have them be really cool with it was the best thing in the world and it meant so much to me. I have now came out on myspace, I just need to do it on facebook.. haha. Thanks for reading, I'm not really good at telling stories so I hope this all made sense.

8th Feb 2010, 08:47 PM	#2
RaeofLite is enjoying ze Okanagan summer sun! Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: The Okanagan(BC), Canada Age: 21 Posts: 2,817 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Johneh came out :O Aw. What a positive story. I think you'll find many users on EC deal with depression and other issues so you're not alone. Welcome to the start of freedom. __________________ "My lesbianism is an act of Christian charity. All those women out there praying for a man, and I'm giving them my share." ~Lisa.. (and the lesbians)

8th Feb 2010, 10:22 PM	#3
Prccgeek yay! EC! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: I like some girls, like some guys. Out Status: lots of people (except my brother and dad) Location: Near Chicago Age: 18 Posts: 279 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Johneh came out :O I didn't think it was that simple. I thought it sounded wonderful! I am glad it went well for you and that your family was so supportive. I have come out after someone asked me as a joke before too. It can be a little intense b/c you didn't see their joke coming and they didn't see your answer coming, but it sounds like it all worked out! So Congrats! __________________ "If homosexuality is a disease, let's all call in queer to work: "Hello. Can't work today, still queer." "Do not follow where the path may lead. Go, instead, where there is no path and leave a trail."

9th Feb 2010, 04:45 AM	#4
EM68 Livin Life Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about. Location: Stoughton, Massachusetts USA Age: 42 Posts: 3,697 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Johneh came out :O Congrats on coming out to your family! Its a great story. __________________ Hope will never be silent- Harvey Milk

9th Feb 2010, 04:50 AM	#5
NeonCookies Well Known Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: to everyone but my dad :( Location: Canada Age: 20 Posts: 137 Join Date: Feb 2010	Re: Johneh came out :O Congratz it is the best thing in the world when your family accepts you for who you are i am glad it went so well for you __________________ There is no use trying, said Alice; one can't believe impossible things. I dare say you haven't had much practice, said the Queen. When I was your age, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.(Lewis Carroll)

9th Feb 2010, 06:56 AM	#6
Johneh Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Family only Location: Edinburgh Age: 19 Posts: 26 Join Date: Dec 2009	Re: Johneh came out :O Thanks alot, it's great feeling that I don't have to hide everything and be paranoid about being found out.

9th Feb 2010, 07:14 AM	#7
padre411 El Padre EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay (Kinsey 5.5) Out Status: I've officially lost count Location: Southwestern US Age: 47 Posts: 395 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: Johneh came out :O Congratulations. You did it way before I did. I managed to keep the secret until I was 46 and it has really taken its toll. I am so glad you are on your way to living your life, not someone else's expectations of your life. Peace, Mike __________________ Mike "The danger is not that there is no bread. The danger is that we believe we are not hungry because of a lie" - Simone Weil There is always a graceful path forward.

9th Feb 2010, 08:28 AM	#8
Jim1454 EC 'Dad' EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Ex wife, parents, kids, best friends Location: Toronto Age: 39 Posts: 6,250 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Johneh came out :O That's SO awesome! I'm glad they came out and asked you, and that you had the courage to be honest with them. Way to go!!! __________________ Jim "It is never too late to be what you might have been."

9th Feb 2010, 09:43 AM	#9
bouncingsouls Well Known Regular Member Gender: -blank- Orientation: Queer... Out Status: Out to everyone Location: England. It rains a lot. Posts: 149 Join Date: Jul 2009	Re: Johneh came out :O While i'm really happy for you and all, i'm also quite disappointed. When I saw the title of this thread I thought one of the jonas brothers had come out. sighs i'll have to keep waiting.

9th Feb 2010, 10:00 AM	#10
Mirko Serenity EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: The door is open Location: Victoria, Canada Age: 33 Posts: 7,654 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: Johneh came out :O Congratulations! What a great coming out story! It's great that you could come out to your sister and mom. Awesome! __________________ ~ Sometimes you just have to take the leap and build your wings on the way down ~

9th Feb 2010, 05:05 PM	#11
Eromyn Property of the Wolf Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Am I Gay enough for you yet? Out Status: Pretty darn out.. Location: Winnipeg, Canada Posts: 1,037 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: Johneh came out :O Congrats!! That's the way every coming out should go. And most importantly I really hope this sets you down the road to recovery from self-hatred and depression and gives you every chance to be the strong person you were meant to be! You now need to go to my poll (somewhere down this forum or the Support forum) and add your positive results. Let's make it official! __________________ My heart belongs to an utterly magnificent Wolf James ~ Gay by Nature

9th Feb 2010, 09:27 PM	#13
seadog Love Beyond Labels Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Barely Location: Washington Posts: 462 Join Date: Jun 2009	Re: Johneh came out :O Yeahhh baby! Live Free or Die! Congrats.

12th Feb 2010, 07:32 PM	#14
Johneh Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Family only Location: Edinburgh Age: 19 Posts: 26 Join Date: Dec 2009	Re: Johneh came out :O Thankyou all for the really nice comments. I'm so glad that it went well and that it's over. I'm still not sure if I can get over that I actually came out. Still in shock. haha