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Kcaz12345 · 19th Jan 2012, 06:19 PM

OMG i cant believe what i did

i kissed my bf

(first kiss) and today also ii flirted with someone in the library and i feel so sorry about it . i said i was so sorry i cried like three times and i cut myself what should i do

Sunsetting · 19th Jan 2012, 07:44 PM

hey bro, first, it's ok.

you made a little mistake because you were feeling a little high from kissing your bf. don't go hurting yourself, we all make mistakes bro and then all we can do is try to make better ones next time.

hey, just give us an update of how your're doing ok?

peace lil bro ~ me

**Lexington** · 19th Jan 2012, 07:48 PM

Um, I flirt with people off and on all the time...and I'm partnered.

The thing is, I don't want (or expect) anything to come from the flirting I do, and usually the people I'm flirting with know this full well. If you were flirting HOPING something would come of it, yeah, I'd say you've got some soul searching to do. Other than that, don't worry about it. You might tell your boyfriend "I started talking with this guy in the library, and we even started flirting a bit. It was just harmless fun, but I felt kinda lousy about it afterwards - like I was cheating on you."

Lex

Kcaz12345 · 19th Jan 2012, 08:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lexington

Um, I flirt with people off and on all the time...and I'm partnered.

The thing is, I don't want (or expect) anything to come from the flirting I do, and usually the people I'm flirting with know this full well. If you were flirting HOPING something would come of it, yeah, I'd say you've got some soul searching to do. Other than that, don't worry about it. You might tell your boyfriend "I started talking with this guy in the library, and we even started flirting a bit. It was just harmless fun, but I felt kinda lousy about it afterwards - like I was cheating on you."

Lex

Yea he know but he is questioning our relationship I kissed him and I really liked it and wanna kiss him again tomorrow I just hope this time he will make out with me but I feel bad for doing it in school

stuwee · 19th Jan 2012, 09:22 PM

Hi 12345, I'm more worried about your 'cut myself' comment, are you a 'cutter' normally? Or was this your way of dealing with the guilt this time? Self multilaion is a way of coping for some folks, not well understood in the mainstream population. If you can understand that it's ok to be around others, enjoy their company and admiring glances even if you made them do that with you with your smile and great energy, make sure you surround yourself with likeminded bf's. Easier said than done I know...

19th Jan 2012, 06:19 PM	#1
Kcaz12345 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Posts: 62 Join Date: Sep 2011	im so sorry OMG i cant believe what i did i kissed my bf (first kiss) and today also ii flirted with someone in the library and i feel so sorry about it . i said i was so sorry i cried like three times and i cut myself what should i do

19th Jan 2012, 07:44 PM	#2
Sunsetting Banned Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: bi, straight, gay Out Status: to some family and friends Location: New York Age: 42 Posts: 950 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: im so sorry hey bro, first, it's ok. you made a little mistake because you were feeling a little high from kissing your bf. don't go hurting yourself, we all make mistakes bro and then all we can do is try to make better ones next time. hey, just give us an update of how your're doing ok? peace lil bro ~ me

19th Jan 2012, 07:48 PM	#3
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,372 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: im so sorry Um, I flirt with people off and on all the time...and I'm partnered. The thing is, I don't want (or expect) anything to come from the flirting I do, and usually the people I'm flirting with know this full well. If you were flirting HOPING something would come of it, yeah, I'd say you've got some soul searching to do. Other than that, don't worry about it. You might tell your boyfriend "I started talking with this guy in the library, and we even started flirting a bit. It was just harmless fun, but I felt kinda lousy about it afterwards - like I was cheating on you." Lex

19th Jan 2012, 09:22 PM	#5
stuwee Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Deep in the Sonoran desert, Arizona Age: 49 Posts: 89 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: im so sorry Hi 12345, I'm more worried about your 'cut myself' comment, are you a 'cutter' normally? Or was this your way of dealing with the guilt this time? Self multilaion is a way of coping for some folks, not well understood in the mainstream population. If you can understand that it's ok to be around others, enjoy their company and admiring glances even if you made them do that with you with your smile and great energy, make sure you surround yourself with likeminded bf's. Easier said than done I know... __________________ I thought I had something to say but, then I forgot what the hell it was...