Odd Complex

[Mlpguy88]

This might not make alot of sense, but one of the reasons I feel like I can't come out is because I am in a relationship with someone, which makes no sense because I will never have a relationship unless I come out.
I'm not sure why but I'm scared to be out and single.

I'm just writing out my thoughts so I'm not sure what I am asking for with this. Can anyone make heads or tails of this thought process?

[Sunsetting]

first, are you in a relationship with a girl or guy? i'm assuming girl..??

[Mlpguy88]

Oh crap, I meant to say because I am not in a relationship. Wow one missing word changes the who message.

[Noir]

My guess is it feels like if you don't have a relationship with a guy, you don't have "proof" to come out with...it's just a guess, though.

[Mlpguy88]

I not sure, it might be because I feel like why should I face the turmoil of being gay unless I'm with someone. That might be it but I'm still not sure, it's like an oxymoron question and it's very confusing

[Sunsetting]

naw, it's not an oxymoron at all and honestly, i don't think you're confused either. the way i see it is that you have attractions for dudes that's all. you can allow that to manifest in any sorts of ways... but what is most important is that you feel comfortable being you and who you are is more than just your sexuality. you are a whole person and how you live out your sexuality is only a part of that. as you are simply more and more comfortable in your own skin, then you can give that to a woman or a man in any friendship or romantic relationship. you're doing ok man, really. you are. take your time. does anyone know about you?

[Mlpguy88]

Originally Posted by Sunsetting

does anyone know about you?

No one knows

[Sunsetting]

in time you'll be able to share it with someone. idk if what i said made sense at all... rest well man, you're doing ok. i found that being open with one older person i trusted (whether they agreed with me being bi-sexual or whatever, was the beginning of some real freedom)