Denial

[Addams13]

How do I know if I’m in Denial and if I am how do I accept that it

I do look at men. When I am out and about but how do I know if I am not just admiring how they look I did look at gay porn i have stoped now but I do not know why i looked

[JudgeDredd]

Well first of all you should ask yourself if you get sexually aroused to looking at men. Did you get turned on by the gay porn? Also you should ask yourself if you get turned on by women? If you don't get turned on by women then your in denial. If you have any more questions you can message me if you want..

[JohnnyBoy]

It's a really hard question to answer on the interwebz...for me, I grew up in a strong Catholic home and while I don't want to say I was conditioned to like girls, it was definitely the 'norm'. It took me about 4 years to transition from 'dating girls cause it's expected' to just accepting that I was gay and going to be who I was born to be. Don't expect an overnight change, I'm sorry to say it might be a long, hard road to truly accept yourself and figure out who you are :/

[TheEdend]

Being in denial its one of those things that you have to catch yourself doing and accept that you are doing it. People can tell you that you are in denial, but if you don't know it then its hard to believe it.

One way to try and figure it out is to simply look at the facts. Here are some ideas for you. Feel free to add or take away as you like.

- Do you get turned on by girls?
- Do you turned on by guys?
- Are most of your sexual fantasies about guys or girls?

If you answer guys for those questions and you still don't think you are gay, then most likely you are in denial.

A lot of people, both girls and guys, do admire the same-sex and it doesn't mean that they are gay, but if you are so worried about it that it has bugged you for multiple years, you question it over and over again, you see yourself admiring guys more than girls, then you are probably gay and there is nothing wrong with that

[callahac]

I think that you have sought out this website, indicates that maybe you are really struggling with this issue, and feel deep down that you are in denial or at least confused.

[LOTRgirl]

Everyone here is giving some great advice- give it some thought! Denial is a hard thing though, and I understand what you're going through. In some ways, I'm still in denial about myself, though I'm slowly coming to terms with it. Some days are easy and awesome, other days are really, really tough. It's not something that's going to be amazing all of a sudden- accepting yourself and loving who you are can be a difficult journey. The good thing about denial is that eventually (whether it's after a short amount of time or even years) it can turn into acceptance.

That's the great thing about this site though- a lot of us are going on that journey together, so you're not alone!!

[Addams13]

i do some times get turned on by the gay porn but i also get turned on by women but it must be a certain type of women but with women it's a different type of turn no with women i lust with my brain but with men i lust with my ...(well you know) but there are some tims were porn is just not fun. if i..... (you know) and try to think of a guy when doing it fills forced but the some gos for women

my mom know i like at gay porn i told her i even told her i mite be gay or bi and she told me that me love me no matter what and that her love is unconditional

[gleekfanatic]

Originally Posted by Addams13

my mom know i like at gay porn i told her i even told her i mite be gay or bi and she told me that me love me no matter what and that her love is unconditional

Well, no matter what the outcome is, at least you know that your mo will accept for you no matter what. I would listen to everyone else here, and ask yourself those questions, because it would really help. they are right, too, you are not alone. Everyone here is on that journey, just in different places, based on how far along they are.