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Hot Pink · 27th Jan 2012, 06:28 AM

Hindsight is a stupid and wonderful thing. They say that it's 20/20, but in my experience, it's not quite that clear. Hindsight can murk up the water or give you the opportunity to make assumptions. At this moment, I'm still not 100% sure that this went down the way my hindsight is telling me.

After LGBT Alliance at my school, I walked out with a girl. I actually like her, but I have low self-esteem, so it was one of those things where I thought it was only in my dreams. Anyway, we're making small talk. Then she asks me what I was doing right now. I told her that I was going home. She then said that she was going to see a local musician. I said that was cool. We parted ways outside of the building.

15 minutes later, I'm driving home and then lightning struck my brain. Did she just ask me out? And I blew her off? But I like her! Oh, no! What do you think?

**Lexington** · 27th Jan 2012, 06:43 AM

She may have been asking you out. Or she may have been suggesting that you could accompany her, on a more "friend" level. Or maybe she was just sharing information. Hard to tell from the information given.

Best bet - when you see her again, ask her how the local musician was. And if she says it was a good show, say you wish you'd gone along, or that you should check him/her out soon. This will give her an easy opening to ask you to accompany her next time.

Lex

coastgirl · 27th Jan 2012, 11:18 AM

Yeah what Lex said. Don't worry you didn't blow it

Just be friendly to her next time you see her and maybe ask her if she's going again or something.

Chouchou · 27th Jan 2012, 02:02 PM

It's not clear, based on what you wrote, what her intention was. It was probably a missed opportunity for you to get to know her better, though. Don't get too hard on yourself, because there will be more opportunities in the future. If she tells you in the future, ask if you can go along.

Ace17 · 27th Jan 2012, 06:44 PM

Totally unsure...sorry I am no help.

Hot Pink · 28th Jan 2012, 01:12 AM

The more I think about it, the more I realize that it was just innocent small talk and didn't mean anything more than that. I read too far into it.

27th Jan 2012, 06:28 AM	#1
Hot Pink EC Addict Full Member Gender: Transsexual: MtF Orientation: Panromantic Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Minnesota, USA Age: 27 Posts: 622 Join Date: Apr 2011	Wait... Did...she ask me out? Hindsight is a stupid and wonderful thing. They say that it's 20/20, but in my experience, it's not quite that clear. Hindsight can murk up the water or give you the opportunity to make assumptions. At this moment, I'm still not 100% sure that this went down the way my hindsight is telling me. After LGBT Alliance at my school, I walked out with a girl. I actually like her, but I have low self-esteem, so it was one of those things where I thought it was only in my dreams. Anyway, we're making small talk. Then she asks me what I was doing right now. I told her that I was going home. She then said that she was going to see a local musician. I said that was cool. We parted ways outside of the building. 15 minutes later, I'm driving home and then lightning struck my brain. Did she just ask me out? And I blew her off? But I like her! Oh, no! What do you think? __________________ Pffffffft...

27th Jan 2012, 06:43 AM	#2
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,372 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Wait... Did...she ask me out? She may have been asking you out. Or she may have been suggesting that you could accompany her, on a more "friend" level. Or maybe she was just sharing information. Hard to tell from the information given. Best bet - when you see her again, ask her how the local musician was. And if she says it was a good show, say you wish you'd gone along, or that you should check him/her out soon. This will give her an easy opening to ask you to accompany her next time. Lex

27th Jan 2012, 11:18 AM	#3
coastgirl Well Known Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: I like girls Out Status: 1 straight friend, several gay friends Location: Florida Age: 28 Posts: 107 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Wait... Did...she ask me out? Yeah what Lex said. Don't worry you didn't blow it Just be friendly to her next time you see her and maybe ask her if she's going again or something.

27th Jan 2012, 02:02 PM	#4
Chouchou Warrior Goddess Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Homosexual (asexual?) and mostly homoromantic Out Status: To some friends, but not to family Location: Wisconsin, USA Age: 26 Posts: 1,109 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Wait... Did...she ask me out? It's not clear, based on what you wrote, what her intention was. It was probably a missed opportunity for you to get to know her better, though. Don't get too hard on yourself, because there will be more opportunities in the future. If she tells you in the future, ask if you can go along. __________________ "The good neighbor looks beyond the external accidents and discerns those inner qualities that make all men human and, therefore, brothers." -- Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

27th Jan 2012, 06:44 PM	#5
Ace17 Sometimes Ignorance is NOT bliss. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian ♀♀ Out Status: Ask me about it. Location: New York State. Age: 17 Posts: 766 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Wait... Did...she ask me out? Totally unsure...sorry I am no help. __________________ "Love is like the air we breathe. It may not always be seen, but it is always felt, used and needed." "Love knows no race, gender, or age. Love only knows the heart that is within."

28th Jan 2012, 01:12 AM	#6
Hot Pink EC Addict Full Member Gender: Transsexual: MtF Orientation: Panromantic Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Minnesota, USA Age: 27 Posts: 622 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: Wait... Did...she ask me out? The more I think about it, the more I realize that it was just innocent small talk and didn't mean anything more than that. I read too far into it. __________________ Pffffffft...

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