Chicken

[Silver Sparrow]

I have been planning to come out for more than a month, since around/ a little before the time of my "logistics" post. Let's just say no one knows that I'm bi, who I actually talk to face to face. I keep chickening out. Let's just take today, for example.
Okay. After hockey practice, I get on the bus to go back to school. I sit right across from Nicole (good plan, right) and bide my time, waiting for a break in Nicole's and Andrea's (another friends) conversation. Andrea eventually calls her dad to check in, so I'm thinking that now would be the time. And then, I freeze up. I can't force myself to lean across and just take that first step- to say "Hey Nicole, can we talk for a minute?"
Gosh, I feel like such a chicken. It's been a month!
Any of you have tips on pushing through the nerves?

[secretgirlX]

That's all right. It took me a year and a half to get the guts to tell anyone, i missed out on so many opportunities i had had to say it beforehand. The first friend I told had to guess when she wanted to know who i liked and why i wouldn't tell her. I felt like a coward even then. There isn't exact advice I can give you, just say it, it will make you feel so much better. You probably know the feeling of hesitation, just ignore it and tell them. Good luck.

[silverhalo]

I think everyone goes through this especially when they first start coming out. Sometimes when I got to the point that I really needed to come out to someone I would sent them a message or something first saying can we talk or I need to tell you something, that way when I saw them they would prompt me into saying it. Dont panic though there will be plenty more opportunities.

[TheEdend]

Like everyone above said, everyone most people go through this and it sometimes takes people years before getting the guts to do it, so don't be too harsh on yourself.

There really isn't a trick to it other than forcing yourself to go for it and saying it. Its hard to do, but its so worth it. When you are getting ready to say it, think about why you are doing this instead of why you are afraid of doing it. That alone can be a huge change.

Also, remember that you don't have to tell her face to face. You can send her a message, give her a letter, send her a letter or any other way you want to do it.

Best of luck and remember to give yourself time!

[Mlpguy88]

Don't worry it will happen eventually. For some people it just takes a little longer, heck look how old I am and I'm still trying to work up the nerve.
Just remember there are no deadlines on coming out, there is no need to make yourself tense about this. Just give yourself time