In case you don't already know about it, Second Life is a virtual world you can access for free (although a lot of people end up deciding to spend money on land and clothes and things). About ten years ago, not long after I joined, it was getting huge press for being the Next Big Thing, but it turned out it wasn't, so while it's continued to thrive, it does so quietly. In case you haven't seen my profile, I have a male body, but I'm bi and identify as bi-gender (at least, that's the best label I've found so far). My avatar in Second Life is female, so I have friends who've known me for years there who know me only as my girl-self. It's actually really wonderful to have one area of my life in which I'm unequivocally a girl. Some people use Second Life for roleplay, but not the people I spend time with there. From what I can tell, there are a lot of people, as in probably tens of thousands or possibly more, who have one physical gender in First Life (also called "Real Life") and a different one in Second Life. That's specifically why I joined in the first place. Does anyone else here use Second Life? Or do you have questions about it? It's a limited kind of existence, but it's really something to have near-complete control of that existence.
I tried it years ago... It seemed like a neat idea. I just didn't know what to do. It was only a few minutes when some virtual female wanted to have sex with my virtual male. I had no idea what to do and that was not what I was looking for. I roamed around for a while. I tired it again several years later and ran into some people watch this couple pretend to have sex. Is that what the site is about or do I just have some weird timing? I haven't really thought about it in your context. interesting.
Hi BiGuy. I think right off you hit at least two of three the big problems I can think of with Second Life: hard to find a place to be where people you enjoy are, and lots of sexual stuff going on whether you want to see it or not. (The third one I can think of is that sometimes it's hard to learn how to do everything you want to do right off.) Sometimes people try Second Life and just find a lot of empty builds or avatars who don't interact except in the most shallow way, and it can take time to find people to really connect with. A lot of people who use Second Life like to use it sometimes as a way to have virtual sex (if it doesn't seem like sex to you to act out lovemaking in words and motion, you could consider it participatory pornography, I guess), but a lot of other people aren't interested. If you find your crowd, it can be a lot more rewarding. If it would help anyone, I can dig up some suggestions for meeting people. I'm not current on the great gay clubs, since while I've tried Second Life as a male, it hasn't been as rewarding for me as being female there, but I can find out. Kit
It would be interesting what you find out. I am not looking for gay clubs anyway. I am glad to know I am not alone in the awkward experience.
