I am not new to my feelings but am definitely new in trying to accept them as part of who I am. I am 39 years old and have felt like and wished I was born a woman since I can remember (4-5 yrs old) In my lifetime I have gone through great efforts to suppress and deny this about myself. I am tired of living that way. So here I am. I recently(last week) came out to my wife. Who I married in an attempt to "cure" myself. She said she was ok with it. She also believes she can "cure" me. I feel more alone now than I did before. I am here for support , advice whatever I can get. It will probably even help my typing skills as well. Once again thank you and have a wonderful day.
Welcome to EC, Effie! Don't hesitate to ask questions of us, even challenge us if you feel it will clarify things, you have come to the right place! For starters: you can't be "cured", lay that thought to rest, in yourself as in others, as much as you can.
I am sure now I can't be cured . I tried for a long time. I just feel trapped in the place I have made for myself . My first thought was to just end the marriage. I decided to just tell my wife and see what happened. Last week she was accepting. This week it's "why are you reading a book for women?" I feel like I need to give her time to get used to the idea.I really don't know what else to do but make progress in the direction I feel I need to and let her sort out her part. Is this selfish thinking? ---------- Post added 14th Aug 2013 at 08:50 AM ---------- Oh and thank you greatwhale
Yes I have a 9 year old daughter . My current wife is not her mother. I have had custody of my daughter since she was 2.
It's always hard to make any decision about us when kids are involved. As for your wife. Don't give her time. Chances are she will thought that if you don't talk about it, she can safely ignore it.
Welcome to EC You probably will get better typing skills too lol I did. As for your issue I cannot give any advice - sorry
Welcome to EC! There are a lot of accepting people on here, and people who are going through similar things, so I hope you can find all the advice you need! Good luck with your wife, hopefully she'll realise she can't 'cure' you... ride:
The only people who need to be "cured" are the ones who can't accept you for who you are. We definitely WILL. Welcome!
