Hey everyone this is my first time posting and I'd really appreciate some answers. I'm a 14 year old boy who is gay but is afraid to come out to his parents because they're really religious. I come from a Christian background so I'm also religious but my religion is against homosexuality. Ever since I was little I've known I was different. I preferred hanging out with girls, I wasn't into sports, I was more into drama and other stuff. People realized I was different and started calling me a girl and a fag. Even a few of my cousins. And it really hurt my feelings. Luckily I moved to a new school and got a chance to start over. I was going to be joining in 7th grade so I decided to completely change my character. I changed so much that I started acting like a jerk and felt like I wasn't being myself. I decided enough's enough and went back to the way I was in 9th grade. And the name calling started again. But this time I didn't care. Until one day my teacher was gay bashing during class and called me a woman. (Curse Him!) and it hurt my feelings again but I didn't feel bad for long cuz I had good friends. Later I developed a crush on a close male friend of mine :eusa_doh:but he was STRAIGHT! (Bummer) and I told him and he took it really well ... For a short period of time then he started acting like an a******. So I stopped talking to him. He was the first person I came out to. And luckily he didn't tell anyone about my gayness. That's enough about my life story. I'd like to come out of the closet but only to my close friends as almost all my family is homophobic. I've tried to change but I realize that I can't. I tried to masturbate to straight porn and other stuff but it all didn't work. I feel like if I come out to my family, they will disown me and throw me out. My father is extremely religious and homophobic, one of my brother's is as well and my mum least of all. I have a feeling my other brother knows I'm gay and would accept me(I'm closest to him) but I'm not too sure cuz he's religious as hell! When my dad asked me whether I was interested in any girl, I panicked and said yes. So I developed a fake crush on Audrey. And acted like I was smitten with her but never made a move . And it worked. Most ppl stopped calling me gay after that. But I felt fake. So there, I've ended. Any answers are appreciated.
Hello and welcome. It's hard to know you are not straight when you have religious parents. My 14 year old was lucky, I am a Lesbian, and it was no big deal when she came out as Bi to her Step-mom and me. Your parents may already suspect, or know something is different, but that does not mean that they will accept you. It also does not mean they won't. If you trust your brother, you can feel things out with him, and see how he deals with it. Just because someone is religious, does not mean that they won't change their minds when one of their own is gay. 't
Welcome. This sounds like it's the right place for you to help you sort everything out. There are many of us here who are Christian or come from a Christian background. There are lot of great posts that can help you sort out everything. Remember you don't have to do everything all at once. Just being slow, read, post ask questions. I'm sure through it all you'll be able to figure out what's best for you.
Hey, you know it's good that you've come to terms with who you are at a young age. Now you might be able to go through hard times especially because teens can be mean for no reason (well the teacher story shocked me though..), kids want to belong to groups because they feel more powerful and feel like it's cool to bash who's different (=gays). Anyways, you're only 14, be sure that when you get older you'll meet people who will accept you and even who are gay as well. Is there any lgbt association in your area ? It might be helpful and for your family, if you think they will never accept you well try to keep a low profile until you can have the chance to get away : if you can come out to them while you're independent it will be easier to deal with the rejection (if they reject you of course). It's not the best solution I know but you can't risk to be left alone at your age. BUT if there is any chance they can take it well, even to one member of you family then you should speak. It's just a matter of time, it may take a while but you will find happiness that is for sure.
Oh gosh, thanks all of you guys. ---------- Post added 20th Oct 2013 at 05:25 PM ---------- Ill try and keep a low profile till im older. Wow, venting what's been bottled up inside feeks great. Thanks again!
Are there any resources in your school (counselor, LGBT student group, LGBT faculty members) that might help?
Unfortunately I go to a Christian School so there are no LGBT groups or anything like that. I could talk to a teacher buttt... He/she'll probably say that "I should pray the gay away"or "I should go to a straight camp" or something along those lines. And might tell my parents! *sigh*
