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Hi Noah, I'm Ryann. I'm pansexual and have been out to my parents and four closest friends for about a year now. I do not believe anything is wrong with you per say, I just believe that you may be psyching yourself out about someone secretly or openly not accepting you. I say this because when I came out to my best friend, I was extremely scared and began having a panic attack (hyperventilation, crying, the whole nine yards). Luckily, she just said "oh that's cool, tell me when you have a crush, I'll help you out " and then went to ask me for our French homework. I was more than worried and began suffering from depression (bad, very very bad depression) so I believe this may be what is happening to you.
If you ever want/need to talk, feel free to come to me. I got your back

 

Hi! I'm new here too. Hmm. Maybe you should talk to him? This could be a case of simply dreading change and how some peoples views of you will change.

 

First of all welcome to EC!

Second of all, it sounds that your nervous and possibly scared, because there are ignorant people out their who will look down on you and say you evil and going to hell and all of that other nonsense. It's important to realize that any people that you come across that have such an ignorant mentality are just bullies, and aren't worth yours or anyone else's time. Luckily, your family and friends aren't like that. They don't see it as a big deal, because it's not. One day people are going to realize that sexuality is no bigger of a deal then skin color, wardrobe choices, or hair style. So relax, and enjoy the fact that the people around you like you for you.

I would imagine that what your going through is fairly common. My mom use to be against it, and said that she would prey for me if she ever found out that I was gay. Luckily I brought her back to reality and when I finally did tell her, she was perfectly fine with it and supports me fully like she has with everything I do. She's still religious unfortunately, but now she doesn't believe in negative religious nonsense, and she is finally able to think for herself and is questioning what she reads in the bible all the time. (Im so proud of the progress she's made with that. After all, I always have been able to sway people and open their minds easily. :icon_bigg)

Just be yourself and stop worrying about what other people think, and you will be fine. The people who don't like the fact that your gay aren't worth your time. By the way, it was nice meeting you. :smilewave

 

Hm. Maybe just wait for him to bring it up, and if he doesn't, he probably doesn't think it's a huge deal. Is he a close friend?

 

Perhaps you are still coming to terms with it. I know that I had a feeling of guilt each time I first mentioned it to people. It will pass in time - and hopefully you'll look back and smile on these memories.

Welcome to EC

 

Hi, welcome to E.C.! I don't think anything is wrong with you. I know that when decide to come out, I'll probably have a massive anxiety attack as well.

 

Hi Noah!

Have you considered telling your parents or teacher about this? They could help you. But for now, just don't care what other people think about you. Also, just calm down and be yourself. I'm always here if you want/need to talk.

 

Hi Noah. Welcome to EC. It's cool you told them the truth and didn't hide it. When I was your age I was still confused but always said that I was either straight or bisexual. I found out that there are straight acting guys who are also into guys. Made me feel good. It takes time to get comfortable when you tell somebody you are gay. It will all get better. You are doing a good thing. Need any support we are all here for you man.

 

Hey Noah,

The 'feeling bad' is quite common I think and I also think it will ease off with time. It is likely to do with 'revealing the secret' and expecting either fireworks or something bad to happen - and yet nothing much happens - so its a complete anti-climax. After years of conditioning from internalised homophobia there is a certain 'fear of disclosure' that goes with it and makes it more intense .. but, as I say, I think you will find it will improve the more you do it and the older you get!!

 

Welcome Noah!

 

Hey Noah,

It always feels like there's an elephant in the room after the conversation where you come out is over (I really hate that metaphor but it works here). Often it goes away in time, but sometimes you do need to address it. Sometimes I can't stand waiting for things to work--I want closure NOW--but time can be your friend here. As am I and all of us on EC. We're here for you.

 

Hi and welcome to EC!