Hello! New girl from Sweden looking for friends

Hi! I'm new too Im from Australia & going through the same thing as you & I too do not have anyone to talk to It would be really nice to talk with someone going through the same thing or something similar.

 

I wouldn't want to be your boyfriend.

Welcome to EC.

 

That's why I feel bad for him. I knew your relationship was shaky even before you announced that it was.

Obviously, you're blameless as you didn't know your orientation at the time you began dating the guy, but it sucks for both of you, especially him. Not only does it hurt to get dumped, but if you leave him for a girl it may lead him to think he was a bad boyfriend that converted you to lesbianism or something.

This is why I would let any potential newcomer in my life know upfront that I'm Bigender, because that's a lot of baggage to reveal later on in a relationship.

You're in a sticky situation, but you seem to be handling it with aplomb and integrity.

 

Sandshoes: Well it does sounds like your in a bit of a situation Does he have any idea about what your feeling/going through?? Anything specific you want to chat about to start a convocation?

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Sandshoes: I know what you mean by saying that you feel that you might be letting him, his family, and friends down but your happiness is important too I'm finding myself becoming more and more attracted to women than men, I'm so confused by all of it, I mean I accept it but I guess actually being with a women and fantasying about may be completely different! I know exactly how your feeling about letting someone down, hurting them, for me it's not my boyfriend because I am single but it's worse.... my parents! :O

 

Hey!!!!!!!!!!!!! Jag gillar Sverige! That's the extent of my Swedish...maybe I know a couple more verbs and nouns

That's tough. I had a boyfriend for 8 months and I had to break up with him because in the end I realized that I'm a lesbian :\ Some times making it drag out longer than it should can be more painful for the both of you. I wish you all the best!

 

Well, if you don't truly want to be with him anymore, then the best thing to do is end the relationship, start exploring women, and come out because you can't keep a relationship going without sexual compatibility. I know society downplays the importance of sexual compatibility, but take it from me: it's one of the most important aspects in determining whether a relationship will work or not, and needless to say this one is doomed. Were all adults here, and you really shouldn't mislead him anymore, as these games are for kids, not adults.

I must emphasize how bad I feel for the guy. Everyone is so unromantic these days, but he is and I hope he doesn't let this bad experience rob him of it. Mostly, I prefer women, but men like him have a striking quality that's fascinating to me.

2 years is a long time to be involved with someone though, and while it's certain you're over it he isn't. He knows you're relationship is in a precarious state, and he's bound to know it's just a matter of time before you sever it, and the best thing to do now is end it.

 

Sandshoes: just letting you know that I have to post 10 times before I can reply to your message on my wall, which is annoying...I'm not ignoring you, just have to post 10 stupid posts :/

 

Hello!

 

Hej!

Unfortunately, I’ve never been to Sweden, yet. However, I’ve got an open invitation to go, so that’s soon going to be remedied. However, I digress. (On a side note, I love Bron, the show)

Welcome to the website!

 

Welcome! If you need to talk, send a message my way if you like!
I hope you find what you're looking for here!

 

Hai girl and welcome

 

Hi! I'm not sure how to characterize my sexuality, either. I'm attracted
To people of all genders, including transgendereds. I don't know the
Right terms & stuff, I'm kind of scared of the realization, even though I
Have known for years.

But hey! You sound nice. I like this site. Hope we will be friends.

 

Hi and welcome to EC!

 

Did you break the news to him yet?