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Shy Lesbian Greeting Hello

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by Pikachu007, Jan 4, 2014.

  1. Pikachu007

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    Hi. My name' s Frances and I'm a butch
    lesbian from Ontario, Canada. I'm fun,
    loving, shy but very outgoing who is a huge
    animal lover (especially dogs, birds and
    guinea pigs). I'm also a huge fan of Lady
    GaGa :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: I'm also honest , thoughtful and
    serious about certain things. I'm not selfish
    or anything like that, as I care more about
    my family and friends then myself

    I was recently separated from a long distant
    relationship with my femme partner, who
    happened to be my first girlfriend. But to be
    honest, I never had a physical relationship
    with a lesbian, unfortunately. My partner
    and I never met, since we couldn't afford
    travel expenses.

    Since I'm now single, I would like to meet a
    femme girl who lives within Ontario,
    hopefully who lives in Peel Region, as I live near
    those areas. I've had it being in a long
    distant relationship. I wanted to experience
    of what's it like to be in a physical
    relationship with a woman. I wanted to be
    the one who can take her out on dates, give
    her all my love and support to her, and of
    course experience making love to her and so
    on.

    I've indentified myself as a lesbian for
    over 5 years now. I always had feelings
    and attraction to women since I was a kid.
    Guys were never my thing. Never had
    feelings for them or anything. But at that
    time, I didn 't accept myself. I was confused
    for about nearly a decade before admitting
    myself that I like women, although I still feel confused today.

    I've lost count of how many times I asked
    different women out.. But it all ended in a
    failure. I don't know, I never have any luck asking women out, and ever since I accepted myself as a lesbian, I'm back to confusion again. Lately, I've been having some feelings of insecurities and such. It feels like I'm not a lesbian, that I'm a nobody who doesn't belong anywhere. To be honest, I've been feeling really depressed lately mostly about my sexual orientation. Plus, where I live, there is lack of LGBT groups near by so life is difficult, really

    Well, that is all for now. Sorry for the long message. Just so much stuff to say, plus I feel lonely anyways. If you're interested to know more about me, feel free to message me :slight_smile:
     
  2. UlrichOwl

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    Hi Frances! I am new to the forum myself, and am glad to see some other Canadians here. I know how challenging a long distance relationship can be, as I am currently in one myself. I am lucky enough to be able to see my boyfriend periodically, although the travel is certainly prohibitive.

    It is on his advice that I joined this forum. He suggested it would be a good online social outlet.

    I understand your depressive feelings. I have struggled with depression my whole life, and my sexual orientation tends to be the recurring theme during these depressive spirals. I have found that communication has contributed a great deal to my positive moods. Depression can be an isolating experience, so talking about it with others can help to shed that isolation.
     
  3. Pikachu007

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    Hello there! Thank you so much for your reply! :slight_smile: I'm also glad to see some Canadians here as well, and yes, communication is the main part to help people out with depression and such

    Thank you for understanding. Yes, I've been battling depression for many years since childhood, although it just got much worse. Also, I have low self esteem so it's hard to stay positive and accepting myself for who I am

    I was so depressed and lonely (and I still am) that I called LGBT Youthline and a volunteer told me about this site, that I should join here. So yeah, I signed up here and hopefully, it should help me out ^^
     
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    Well, feel free to give me a holler on here if you ever need to chat. I have been trying to find some new joy in my life after a very depressing year. I am trying to focus on the present moment more, instead of drifting away into regrets of the past or fears of the future.
     
  5. Pikachu007

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    Great :slight_smile: Thank you very much ^^ Cannot wait to meet and greet you and more people here :slight_smile: I believe it'll be good for me
     
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    Welcome on EC :slight_smile:
     
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    Welcome to EC. :slight_smile:
     
  10. Pikachu007

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    Hey everyone! ^^ Thank you all for the warm welcomes <3 And I am doing well, thanks for asking :slight_smile:
     
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    Hi! How are you? :slight_smile:
     
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    That was such a beautiful post XD Shame long-distance is out of the question, you seem kinda cute :wink:
     
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    Hi Frances! :grin:
     
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    Welcome to EC Frances!

    Just as a clarification, EC is not a dating site, it's a support and advice site. Be sure to read the rules here and you'll be fine :slight_smile:
     
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    Woah! You sound like a really amazing person. Im Samira and new to this site. So welcome Frances :slight_smile:
     
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    Hey! Im new too, feel free to message me as well, you are not alone. Sometime this world is depressing
    We need more acceptance, love and a little smile :slight_smile:
     
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    Welcome to EC! From your long-post, I can tell you're a sweetheart. I wish you the best of luck finding happiness and resources from the site!♥
     
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    I'm fine, thanks :slight_smile: and you?

    I wish you this site makes you feel good (*hug*)
     
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    Welcome to EC! :slight_smile:


    You know what you're not alone I myself feel the same as you do been liking girls yet no one in 4 yrs found the person who will love me. Sometimes they'll just make me either a rebound ass or fall to friend-zone. I'm always the good person who always be their friends sure it is good cause you're friends but that's only it and nothing else which is really SUCKS I admit. I even ask myself if it was me or them but well either of it still I ain't going to lose hope that one day I might find someone who I can love dearly and accept me for who I am or even I can make breakfast in bed lol :grin: You should do that too, never lose hope cause who knows it might just be around the corner. Pika-pika?! :wink: