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Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by K2 40YOV, Jan 17, 2014.

  1. K2 40YOV

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    I just joined and this is my first thread.

    Mainly just to say "hi" and introduce myself. Glad to see there is an online community out there as I don't have many peeps to talk to.

    I'm male, 40, married with child, and... Bi

    I've always felt I was a bit different but I also thought that EVERY hetero had these same feelings and just had a tough time talking about it.

    Yesterday after doing a lot of reading, it hit me. I am Bi. Its not just the occasional random thought about the same sex. I am attracted to certain men just as much as women. My first impulse upon entering a room is scanning the women, but if there is an attractive man there... I give credit where due :slight_smile: I've ranked myself a 2 on the Kinsey scale hence my moniker. 40YOV stands for 40 year old virgin as I have never acted on my feelings of attraction for men.

    Yesterday was really profound for me. An epiphany, an eureka moment so to speak. Is it the reason I had such problems with my marriage? My depression as of late? My feeling of being a bit lost all my life? So much to think about! I am overwhelmed.

    I told my wife last night as well. It wasn't a shock. She has known for a long time she says. She is suspicious that I am actually gay but seems excepting overall. We had great sex afterwards if that makes any difference?

    Anyway, hi to all that read. I look forward to meeting and talking with people that are in my boat... or at least my ocean :slight_smile:

    peace and love


    Earl
     
  2. sldanlm

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    Welcome to E.C. :slight_smile:
     
  3. K2 40YOV

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    thank you... how long have you been out? would you share how things went when you explained to your family?

    regards
     
  4. sldanlm

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    5 years, to my parents and brother and sister. To say some of them weren't accepting would be an understatement. It was pretty ugly and weird.

    I've never been married or had children, so I don't know how someone would deal with that. It's good that you're wife is accepting.
     
  5. K2 40YOV

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    I can't say that she is completely excepting... just now she is changing her tune and saying that is won't work for her.
     
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    Welcome to EC! :slight_smile: :grin: :smilewave (*hug*)
     
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    Hello in here! :grin: welcome to EC!
     
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    You are aware of the numbers of guys entering EC with "bisexual" on their lips only with time and self acceptance they move into "gay"?.

    Some claim to be the ultimate hetero lover, with sublime skill only to learn that it was a mask, a smoke screen, a form of denial and delusion to deal with their internalized homophobia.

    You are just starting out so don't rush gay sex. Figure yourself out first.
     
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    :welcome: Glad to see you joining us! Hope to see you hanging around.
     
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    Welcome!