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Been out for years and still struggling

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by BeMyCancer, May 22, 2014.

  1. BeMyCancer

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    Hey guys... I totally had no idea there was a website/forum for us! I am so happy.

    I found this by searching "forums for lesbian relationships" and this popped up. I was totally floored. I should've known but didn't. Haha.

    But hi! I'm Chrissy, I'm 26 years old. I came out to my mom really young, I had my first "girlfriend" when I was 8 years old (we still are in contact with each other and she's completely out of the closet as well). I just went up to her and told her "Mom, I have a girlfriend!". I am completely lucky, my mom is really young & bisexual so she just laughed and said ok. But I have struggled with my sexuality off and on for years.. I was married for 4 months to a guy, who is the sweetest man alive & still my best friend... And I still really just wish... ugh.. That I could be the "normal christian girl" who is married, with two kids and a white picket fence.

    Instead, I'm a lesbian who has fallen in love with her best friend and is watching that relationship crumble after only 7 months. And realizing, this is a serious pattern with me.. So if anyone has advice on how to keep a relationship work when things get really rough.. Feel free to give it! :slight_smile:
     
  2. BlueBerryHearts

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    Lol Hello and welcome Chrissy ^^ Just because your gay doesn't mean that you aren't normal though, and I could give you some advice, but you'd have to tell me a little more in detail on how she reacts and what you say to her--I don't want to know this cause I'm nosy, it's just, there are certain ways to handle certain people, so, it's not cause I'm nosy or anything XD Lol.

    P.S: Your mom's awesome XD
     
  3. BeMyCancer

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    Awww thank you.

    It's just little stuff. We argue over the smallest of things, each accusing each other of twisting words and depressed due to stress.
     
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