Hey, my name is Vanessa, 20 years old, i am from Caracas, Venezuela, i'Ve been looking for a place where i could talk to people who can relate to me, i am currently in the closet but find myself desperate to come out, only a few people knows the true about my sexuality, the thing is that i want to tell my family especialy my mother but i dont know how. I have known i like women since i have about 9 or 10 years old, i dont really remember exactly when i realise that i did, it was hard for me because i grow up living with my brother and my dad so i didn't have anyone i could talk about it, in the end i kind of figure things out by myself it took me a lot time to accept it but i am finally happy with myself the only problen is the coming out. how does one Come out if you actually don't know what to say? How one Can handle the fear of rejection from the people you love? When is the rigth time to do it?
Welcome! You don't have to come out to everyone at the same time. I suggest first talking to your friends and those who you think will be accepting. Often times, LGBT people will have supportive friends. Also, the main thing to realize is that most straight people don't think that much about LGBT issues. Homophobia is something that must be learned, and it can be unlearned. By talking to friends (and maybe some relatives like your brother), you can start building a support group of allies who can advocate on your behalf.
