Hi everyone I'm new here and have been thinking about posting on a forum for a long time but just kept putting it off. Anyway I'm 22 male and have been suffering from depression and anxiety for over a year now. I'm confused for lack of a better word about my sexuality. The thing is most of these posts I see from other guys feeling this way always start with saying they haven't had many experiences with girls or a proper girlfriend. I had a few girlfriends from 15-21 and have enjoyed having sex with them. I was with my last gf for roughly 3-4 years and we broke up six months ago. Just before the break up I started having ed and heaps of different physical symptoms. Still till now I don't know if it is depression and anxiety or if it is something physical or if I am gay. I'm so depressed because I want to be with a girl so bad and have attraction like the natural way I was used to. I halve an extremely low self esteem but really don't have anything to worry about I am doing pretty well in life and keep fit and healthy. Also I have this EXTREMELY irritating feeling in my rectum which caused me to start thinking I might be gay. A question I have been pondering on for ages which is directed to the gay males on this forum is, do/did you guys every get a gnawing/pushing feeling in your rectum sorry to be blunt but docs can't help. I haven't seen a specialist yet but gp said nothing's wrong. Thanks in advance for your responses
Hi there and Welcome to EC, I think you will be able to find a lot of people who will be able to help you and give you some answers to some of those questions. I think just don't feel stressed to think you need an answer straight away about your sexuality. It's something that might take time for you to figure out and that is okay if it does. Just take your time and relax, breath and know we are here to help you. I hope you find this site helpful and supportive.
Hello and welcome to EC! :smilewave :welcome: It's a pleasure to meet you I think that you should post this question in the Support Area under "Gender Expression and Sexuality". You can find more accurate answers there and those who might enlighten you even more so on the subject. On the matter at hand, I think that you should know that you are perfectly normal and loved no matter what you are. You need to learn how to love yourself first. Do not stress out about it. It is absolutely not a bad thing at all! Whatever you are, or realize that you are, we as a community are here to lend a helping hand and champion for whatever makes you happy. That's what EC's all about. Please do not hesitate to message me if you want to talk or have some concerns. --Candace
Hey, sorry you're hurting. I'm new here, but this is literally the most supportive place I've ever been. Come talk to us, we wont judge you.
Hello and welcome to EC . I have agree you need to slow down take a deep breath relax there is no need to rush into anything I bet once you stop stressing so much you will find that your ed and other physical symptoms might go away or get better at least . I am sorry that you are going threw this . But know this I am sure there is somebody else here that has been threw it to ,I have not but if you need to talk, cry ,scream or what ever I will be there for you just send me a message my friend I hope your day gets better
Hi, and welcome. First, there's no inherent correlation between feeling anal irritation and being gay (other than, for example, having really intense anal sex and being sore the next day.) So what's worthwhile here is to look more closely into what you're saying. I hear you saying you have strong attractions to girls, and you enjoy sex with girls. Do you have any sort of attraction to guys? Do you notice guys on the street / at the pool or beach? Do you find pics of shirtless or semi-naked guys turning you on? What about girls? Do you have the attractions I described above for girls? And what happens if you masturbate without porn? Do you fantasize about guys? girls? both? What happens if you intentionally try to masturbate thinking about guys? Is it arousing? If you can think about the above and (assuming you're comfortable doing so) answer here, it will be much easier to give you clearer guidance about where your attractions lie.
