Hi, I've been figuring out who I am lately. I've always known I liked guys as well as girls but I never really thought much about it till after highschool. After highschool I started noticing an attraction to certain guys. I met my best friend in tech school and after a while fell in love with him. I always wished I could tell him but I knew he didn't swing that way. We eventually graduated and we still hang out every now and then. Since then I've had a few guy crushes and have gotten married to a wonderful woman as my bestfiend has done as well. I came out to my best friends wife one day because she told me she thought two guys together was hot and I should come out to her husband, but I've never had the nerve, (until one night we were drunk, he said he accepted it and loves me like he always has, although I never told him I loved him like I do, I just didn't have the nerve and it doesn't matter much anyways). I've had a few other crushes since. At this point my best friend has moved a few hours away and I pretty much don't have anyone to hang out with. So I'm hoping at some point to find a good friend to hang with that's also open. But I figured I'd pop in and say hi and join the community. Its nice to be able to be fully open about me. I haven't bothered telling my family and almost all my friends have no clue.
Welcome to the group I am so glad that you have shared your story with us and just remember we all have secrets and story's to tell and we are here to be supportive not to judge you
Hi there and Welcome, Thank you for sharing, I hope you enjoy being here, I think this site will be a wonderful place for you to interact with others who are in similar situations or been there where you are. It's a supportive and friendly place, so don't feel shy.
Welcome, Topher! Did you feel better after telling your best friend? I think that was sooooo courageous! I know his wife was intrigued and accepting, but have you said anything to your wife? Sorry, if I am being a Nosy Nellie just tell me to drink my beer and sit in the corner.
i told my wife when we started dating along time ago. shes ok with it. i did feel alot better after telling him, was glad he was so accepting of it, sadly im not sure if he remembers or not as we were both drunk and it was probably 2 am, and it was probably 4 years ago now. forever i had wished he would just lean over and kiss me but i think thats way passed. im not to worried about it. just would have been nice.
yea it would have been nice. i had a girlfriend years ago that joked asking if we were gay, i always wished in my head but always had to tell her no. and gladly yes we are still friends and talk often, just not as often as i wish, he has a new job that he had to move for and he is super busy. we all still hang out every now and then. i even at one point would buy the same hoodie as he would. his wife knowing i love him always finds it fun to tease me about wishing i were her so i tease back saying i was his first haha.
