Hello everyone. I signed up for this because well, it's been very recent that I've been able to be accept myself as transgender. I've been out as bisexual for years now, that was easy. Transgender? Not so much. It certainly didn't help that a transgender friend of mine told me to stop lying about being transgender because I refused to be out when it could endanger me and because I wasn't sure of myself at the time. He pressured me and said I wasn't really trans if I refused to dress as a man and couldn't "pass" and just remembering the nasty things he said to me is making me cry. He intentionally called me a girl several times in the last conversation I had with him, which of course was a fight. And even then I wasn't nasty enough to call him a girl. Because I did know how much that could hurt him. So, I've started talking a bit more in the lgbt areas of forums about being transgender, and started to accept myself and beginning to undo the damage he did. My name is Dakota. I'm going to be 24. Hello.
Welcome, im very sorry that you had to go through that, everyone has their own time and place for coming out but here you will be accepted here and finally be able to be who you are (*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)
Thank you. It's kind of shocking to me after such a horrible experience to have people be so accepting of it. My fiancee actually laughed at me about it for being so worried she'd freak. I had claimed gender-fluid because I didn't feel I could take the label of transgender after what had happened. She basically said "whatever, you already came out as gender fluid, why do I care if you're transgender? I still love you" and then we continued to talk about our days.
Hello Dakota. I'm sorry your transgender "friend" (hardly deserves that title, IMO) has been mean to you. Don't worry. People who pick on others do so out of their own insecurities, which only they can resolve.
hi, and welcome on board bro! Don't listen to what that d*** said. Only you know who you are. You will have fun time here and step by step you will eventually love and accept yourself (if you didn't) once again, welcome!
Welcome and don't worry you are among friends now and we don't judge we only give you awesome support lol
It's making me smile when I mention him and people are basically saying variants of "he's a dick". Thank you all lol. I guess my worry that other lgbt people would be like that is completely wrong.
Hello Dakota and what a lovely name you have! People like your badgering "friend" are projecting their own insecurities and unhappiness upon you. Some people just have to stir the pot. They can't stand to see someone finding themselves in a healthy way, which it sounds like you are, step by step. My sister is one of those people that can't stand to see someone happy, so years ago I made the decision to just disengage from her. Our parents are dead so it isn't like we are forced to socialize anymore. You might want to distance yourself from this asshole, oops, I mean acquaintance! Just a thought. Hee hee.
I did within the same hour he attacked me and that was like eight years ago. But the damage had been done. And thank you for the name compliment lol. I love it. x3 My family hates it (and are asses who refuse to use it) but I love it. My fiancee actually helped me pick it out when I was going for a gender-neutral name.
Dakota is a favorite name of mine, too. I also like Laramie and Cheyenne. Oh, pooh on letting stupid words damage your sweet soul! Don't give him that kind of power! You have someone that obviously adores you. That's more than bitter-butthead will ever have, I bet. Dakota wins!
Hey Dakota, welcome to EC! Don't worry about being "too girly" to pass for male - i was born male and actually like being kinda girly
