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Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by Curtis16, Nov 4, 2014.

  1. Curtis16

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    Hey everyone, I'm glad I found this forum. I've never posted or said anything publicly about my gender/sexuality till now. I was raised in a very fundamentalist Christian family and culture so I never allowed myself to explore sexuality or question my gender identity.
    My wife and I just had our first anniversary and we are very happy together. She is very supportive of my self-exploration and was even the instigator of it all. Or I mean that she accepts me so unconditionally that I finally felt safe enough to allow it to surface from my subconscious.
    I am a 23 yr old male and only in the past year have I realized that I am very self conscious of my body and even a little weirded out by it. I am attracted to women, but sometimes feel as if I should have breasts. When I was even 2 years old I was very careful not to let even my mom see me naked or even in my underwear or shirtless. So I don't really know what's going on inside me other than a desire to live an authentic life and be as true to myself as possible. I feel pressure from my culture and others expectations of me to be manly and not be overly expressive. I am afraid that if I am very expressive others will judge me and not be able to listen to what I have to say.
    Well, that's enough for now. I just have never been able to talk to anyone about this besides my wife who I love dearly. Thanks :slight_smile:
     
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    Hey! I'm Chase, and I'm happy you found this site! Many people here figure out their sexualities later in life or after they're married. I am just one person, but feel free to talk to me and everyone else on EC for support and advice!
     
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    Welcome to forum :slight_smile:
     
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    Thanks for the welcomes :slight_smile: I'm excited to find people who can relate. In my community anyone who isn't straight and Christian gets stares and glares.
     
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    Hi there and welcome to EC Curtis,

    I think you will find this site really supportive and friendly, so I think you found the right place to be. I hope you enjoy being here and it's lovely to meet you.
     
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    I'm a christian myself, so I understand the feelings of the others :/ Funny, being a gay christian.
     
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    Hi and welcome to EC!
     
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    hi and welcome ^^ I'm new too, so if you'd like to talk i'm always up for conversation ^^
     
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    Welcome to EC!

    It sounds like gender is more what's on your mind than sexuality, am I right?
     
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    Thanks Blossom, iiimeee, Paul, Lerue, and Laut!

    I would say I'm pretty much just new to it all in general. I am definitely Italy attracted to women, but have found myself analyzing men's style and haircuts more lately, but don't know what that means if anything. So I guess I am questioning gender more.
     
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    Welcome! One of my best friends just came out to me as trans. He's married, has a 3 year old child (with this wife), his wife knows, and occasionally allows him to dress as a woman, but in general he lives as a man. I don't understand everything about transgender, but I know there are many here that do :slight_smile: . You've found a great community!

    Welcome!
     
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    Hey welcome to EC hope yuo enjoy here. Feel free to express your feelings here openly we all are here and we will support you whenever you're in need
     
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    Thanks again everyone. I can't tell you how good it feels to have a safe place. I'm so grateful for technology and the Internet so I can connect with all of you. I feel very vulnerable talking about this things.
     
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    Greetings & Welcome :thumbsup: :smilewave :welcome:
     
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    Hello and welcome to EC! :smilewave :welcome: It's a pleasure to meet you :slight_smile:
     
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