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Being honest but terrified

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by Morgan22, Nov 7, 2014.

  1. Morgan22

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    Want to be honest here since it's not safe to be other places right now. I'm married to a man for 13 years but finally was honest in my journal and to my therapist this week about the truth that I've had a crush on a girl friend of mine since this spring. Being a lesbian hasn't screwed with my life (I haven't let it) but my feelings for my friend have gotten stronger over this year and I'm terrified of it showing, I'm stressed about what to do with my feelings when they're so colorful and it's so life giving to be with her but it has to stay a secret... I don't want to break up my family for my 2 kids, hurt my husband, or cause extended family issues.This is so complicated.
     
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    -hugs you- i just wish you luck
     
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    you cant eat your cake and have it too :slight_smile:

    its really beautiful living life as you feel within.
    I cant say for sure, but mostly, by the time you hit your fifties, you'd regret not having broken free from all norms and living a life you wish.

    Its difficult, but possible and bearable.
    Just tell your family, stay in touch with them on a regular basis, but do live as you want to.

    If it helps, i'm around to talk to!
     
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    Live you life freely without any fear in starting it will come's with problem's but later on everything will be fine as you know time heals all wounds. You can't be prisoned like parrots. If they really love 0170‡38 you then they will understand

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    But that's what I think and I'm still in a closets.[COLOR="

    But I can encourage you if you wanna come out
     
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    Aww, that sounds like a really tough issue....
    Correct me if i'm wrong (anyone, feel free to correct me!) but isn't what we don't have more desireable some times? I am not saying that to question your sexuality but I too have had similar strong feelings before and have been in the same situation as you...

    I sincerely hope it works out for you!

    I'm also here if you need anyone to talk to, even though I haven't been around this forum as long as some people! (*hug*)
     
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    Hi there and welcome to EC,

    I am sorry you are struggling with your feelings, I think just think it through, look in your heart and just follow your but instincts.. Does this girl know you have feelings for her, do you know if she is straight or not? Cause obviously those factors need to be taken into account before you would make any decisions if you were thinking of leaving your family for her. I know it's not an easy decision, but just as I mentioned.. Look at what is inside your heart and what you wanna do to make you happy.
     
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    Hi and welcome to EC!
     
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    Hello welcome to EC :smilewave
     
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    Hello and welcome to EC! :smilewave :welcome: It's a pleasure to meet you :slight_smile:
     
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