Hey all. I'm gonna go by A... for now. I've always known I was bisexual... since I was young. However, I have acted on it less than I would have liked to throughout my life due to my fear of people "not liking" me... or what my family might think. I'm now married and my husband has always known about my serial orientation (along with a few close friends; my family still doesn't know). I've never denied being bi. I've just never come out and said it for no reason. Recently, I have been feeling really stifled from keeping all of it in. I've also regretted not taking my chances to really explore who I was as a person. I've spoken to my husband about my feelings and he is so supportive. He understands the struggle that I feel sometimes and thinks I should reach out to other people like me, so I can realize that I'm not alone. So, that's what I'm doing here! Looking to connect with other like minded people or people who have been in my position. Here's to hoping this helps! Later! A
Hi there and welcome to EC, I hope you enjoy being here, it's a really friendly and supportive place and I am sure you will find it to be very helpful.
Hi A, I have just joined this site and haven't yet formally introduced myself, but I stumbled upon it for the same reasons you have. I'm also bi, married to a man, and we have kids. But unlike you, I have realized that I'm bi only recently. Even though I've been attracted to women since the beginning of my sexual awareness, I always found excuses, or ways to disregard it. Within the binary education that I received, I didn't even know that bisexuality existed. Since I didn't feel I was a lesbian (I was very attracted to men still), I must be straight... Only about six months ago it finally clicked, and I came out first to myself. It took a while, because I've never been involved with a woman (sexually and/or romantically), so how do I REALLY know I'm bi? This realization is of course liberating, though quite confusing all the same. A few months ago I came out to my husband (and later to a couple of close friends). He is trying to be supportive and understanding, but like you said, it's comforting to know you're not alone in the boat... I'm now trying to figure it all out: what does this (not so) new identity means, what do I want out of my relationship with my husband, etc. It's not easy, and it's really hard to be going through this alone. I sometimes feel quite lonely... So I would love to connect with you! And others here going through a similar situation. Sending understanding hugs your way
