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Another state of confusion

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by ZebraStrong25, Nov 16, 2014.

  1. ZebraStrong25

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    Hey everyone!
    I've identified as Bisexual for a vary long time. But recently I divorced my husband of several years. I'm recently out of a long term, and unfortunately unhealthy relationship with a man. Now I'm finding myself frustrated and slightly confused in the dating world.

    I've always leaned more towards females. But, Im INCREDIBLY shy and self conscious around females and find that its "easier" to go after men. But...they are not what I want most.

    One day, hopefully I'll be confident enough to seek out some women.
     
  2. rhapsodic

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    Welcome! (*hug*) :slight_smile:
     
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    Hello and welcome it is so nice to meet you . I hope that you feel right at home just remember we don't judge here we only want to support you !!
     
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    Welcome to the club darling. With my mom, it is a visious circle. My mother's mom never had luck with men despite being heterosexual, my mother (also hetero) is 54 and after two failed marriages and a few emotional scars she finally found herself the perfect man, my sister (35 years old, heterosexual ally) never had any luck with men either, she has had one failed marriage and it seemed to have made her stronger, she has been through intense therapy and reads books about self-abandonment and such and I seen her become a wonderful woman who has a great boyfriend and I hope they get married eventually.

    I feel bad for my late grandmother, whom I never got to know (she died when my mother was just 14, from a panic attack that turned into a heart attack from a nasty argument with my mother's step father) but as the generation progresses the family curse is lessening more and more.

    I never had a problem with men, but I always had problems with women...and I am a lesbian T_T but I am starting to find myself dating more and more SANE women as I grow older. For years I thought I was a psycho-b**** magnet.
     
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    Hi Zebra,

    Welcome to EC!

    You don't seem like a shy girl to me! :wink:

    Hope you like it around here!
     
  7. ZebraStrong25

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    Thank god for the internets :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: I get to be outgoing! hahahah
    But in all seriousness, I'm not shy, till I'm around a cute girl lol. Then Im all insecure.

     
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    Hi there and welcome to EC,

    I hope you enjoy being here.
     
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    You'll find the woman who you don't feel shy around one day, and hopefully they'll feel the same way. Good luck in finding them!
     
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    Hello and welcome to EC! :smilewave :welcome: It's a pleasure to meet you :slight_smile:
     
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