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Hello, gender questioning newbie here

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by wasgij, Nov 28, 2014.

  1. wasgij

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    Hi everyone!

    Well, where do I start?
    Let's jump right in :icon_bigg

    appearance: male, 30s,
    gender: not sure
    preferences: I feel attracted to bi-girls, queer girls, and tomboys


    I'm a male who has been going through a lot of introspection and self-discovery lately. There may or may not have been 'shrooms involved :lol: On the inside I feel more effeminate than 'manly'. I've always felt a bit different, like I don't belong, but as a child I never really questioned my 'gender'. Thinking back, I'm starting to realise that I was just far too repressed, conformist, and always wanting to keep my parents happy, to even explore how I really felt.


    Something has been building up for several years, with me seeking out friendships with bi and queer girls but not really understanding why. Who was I competing with? Was I trying to be more liberal than someone else? Sometimes I just rolled with it, joking to myself that it was a funny little fetish. But now it feels like my unconscious self has been somehow preparing me, guiding me along. I've been doing a LOT of introspection. A lot of things in my life are starting to make more sense, especially from the relationships and behaviour side. Maybe it's 'healing' but it still stings!


    I read through the "Basic TG/TS/IS Information" which was very informative. I don't feel very interested in jumping into any modifications. Just here to learn, see where I fit in, and maybe also help others.
     
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    Welcome to EC!

    I'm in the same kind of stage, exploring my gender openly for the first time atm. Hope being here helps you as much as I feel it's helping me!
     
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    Welcome to EC , it is nice to meet you :slight_smile: .I am unable to help you answer your question I am sorry but I am sure that somebody here on the forum will be able to help you . Good luck and have a great time here !!
     
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    Hi everyone, and thanks!
     
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    Hello, welcome to EC! Hope you find some advice here. There are others sailing the same ship ( Europ-ish expression) :slight_smile:
     
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    Hello and welcome to EC! :smilewave :welcome: It's a pleasure to meet you :slight_smile:
     
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