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Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by breezy, Oct 16, 2008.

  1. breezy

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    hi everyone, i simply wanted to say hello and introduce myself. my name is george, and i am (i guess) seriously considering coming out of my closet. i am married, but very hesitant to inform my wife that i am gay. i have pretty much known - acknowledged to myself - that i am gay for 10-11 years now. in the last 4-5 years, however, i have had no real male contact (read: sex). of course, my cravings and my desires are strong, and i regularly chat (on aol, mostly) with other gay, bisexual, etc. men.

    the more i chat the more i realize what i am missing by being in the closet. i just discovered this site, and i hope that it will help me, and i hope i can help others also.
     
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    welcome to EC!

    you're not that far away from me, and i hope this site helps you!!!
     
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    Hey welcome to EC :grin: You came to the right place for support, it's helped me loads.
     
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    :welcome: Welcome to EC!!!
     
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    Heya! It's great that you've found this little community, it's the best place to get answers and support!

    Jim1454, touch me and Seanboy23 are three people who are going or have gone through with what you're facing at the moment, so they'll be great for support....

    Welcome to EC! :grin:
     
  6. Welcome! Enjoy your stay! This truly is a heart warming community :slight_smile:
     
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    Hey and welcome! This is a great place to talk, just be open and honest, and you should have a great time here. :grin:
     
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    Hi George and welcome to EC! :slight_smile:
     
  9. breezy

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    thank you all for your support and encouragement. i look forward to exploring and learning more and more!
     
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    Hello and Welcome to EC!

    :welcome: :thumbsup:
     
  11. Welcome to EC!
    This site has helped me loads with everything, I'm sure you will and I hope you find everything you're looking for.
    Welcome, we're glad to have you on board!
     
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    George,

    First of all, welcome! Sounds like we have a LOT in common! Do you have children too? The one thing we DON'T share is your bravery; I'm lucky in that I didn't come out to my wife until far along into our separation, so if you confess to your wife, you'll be taking a leap that I didn't have the courage to face.

    Any time you wanna chat, let me know!

    PS: November 1 is my one-year "coming out" anniversary, so believe me, it's been a wild time for me in the past couple of years.
     
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    Hi George. I don't have time to provide a long post right now... but I was in the same position as well. I eventually couldn't deal with it - and came out to my wife. That was almost 2 years ago. Life got worse before it got better. But now life is good. I have a boyfriend who has had a similar experience as well...
     
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    Welcome to EC! I'm sure Jim and Sean will be a great help for you!
     
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    Hey, welcome to EC!
     
  16. breezy

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    wow...to sean and to jim: thank you so much. it will be nice to speak to people who have been in similar situations. it is truly so very hard to be gay and to be married at the same time.
     
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    Hi George and welcome to EC!
     
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    Hi Breezy,
    I would love to be friends with you...You sound alot like me. I am also new to coming out. Only had 1 contact with a guy, but wanting more. Please feel free to email me.

    Jeff