ok, so I'm a female & I've known since i was extremely young that i was attracted to girls as well as guys. Since i was 14, I've only dated guys although the female attractions still lingered. I've been "talking" to this guy for 2 years, dating him for 4 months. We've been having problems a good solid month & I've discovered that I'm no longer attracted to guys, AT ALL. Cant even see or picture myself with another guy if this doesn't work out, but i CAN see the possibility of a female relationship. Anywho.....im wondering if he has COMPLETELY CONVERTED ME to lesbian. and if so, how on earth do i explain that :help:
Hello and welcome to EC! :smilewave :welcome: It's a pleasure to meet you No one can convert you towards anything. Maybe it's just that you liked girls all along and you didn't know until now. We don't assume that our children are gay or lesbian right from the get go, am I right? There's nothing to worry about and it's perfectly natural. I wasn't "converted" to liking guys.
I agree with Candace it isn't a phase and you haven't been converted. You were born that way and there's nothing wrong with it. Oh and welcome to EC.
no, i mean i knew i liked girls since i was in elementary school , but has he completely turned me off to guys FOR GOOD? ---------- Post added 31st Dec 2014 at 04:26 PM ---------- thanks for welcoming me
You might have a look at this: Am I Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, or Transgender? and this. How to deal with your first crush on a girl I'd say take your time... explore your feelings... you might take it slow and get to know a few women, maybe on a basis where you see first what you have in common, and take it from there... and hello and welcome (*hug*)
im just so lost because i honestly don't know where I stand with this guy. i love him, but things are increasingly different . i told him i cant see myself with another guy but i can with a girl and i think he took it as like : he's THE ONE , rather than part of the problem....... ---------- Post added 31st Dec 2014 at 04:42 PM ---------- we got into it pretty bad last night & he said he was tired of "us" , but when i ask if we're completely over, he doesn't respond. ....so in my eyes, i think and feel we're just in an argument and i can't in my right mind explore the situation with a female because i feel as a person (no matter the sex) it would still be cheating
Do you think that the reason that you cannot see yourself with another guy is because you are currently in a relationship with one? Also, nobody can convert you to being LGBT, it is just how you are. So, my guess is that this situation is helping you realize your feelings for the same sex.
no, i dont think it's because im currently in a relationship with one. because in prior relationships, if the guy was messing up, i could see myself trying with another guy if or when the relationship ended......this time, i cant. like, i want nothing more to do with guys if this doesn't work. Certain things he does attracts me to him, but physical attraction has only been towards females lately and no, it hasnt "helped me" realize the attraction for the same sex, female attraction has always been there.....all the crap with him has just turned me away from guys i guess
I haven't been on EC very long but I can tell you that you are struggling now, but this is the best place for you to come. I hope for you the best of luck in your discovery! I'm here to talk always if you need someone
thanks. i just got on here today so i really don't know how to use this or how to add friends or message or anything aside from responding to this