Hi! I'm looking for some advice. I've always had sexual relationships with both boys and girls (i'm a cis female) but have recently, over the past few months, been wondering whether i'm a lesbian, as i've never particularly enjoyed sex with boys, although i have had romantic attractions to them, as I have with girls. I say 'wondering'...what i mean is that it feels very right to me. I now know for a fact that I'm more attracted to girls than to boys, but find it much harder to at upon that attraction. Boys become a sort of 'comfort zone' really, but I never feel fulfilled and am always looking for a way out. This leads me to a horrible confusion about whether I'm bisexual and just haven't found a guy I like yet, or whether i'm looking in an entirely wrong gender. Have any of you ever been in the same position? Do you have any advice? Thank you! Fappiness x
Hi, welcome to EC Fappiness! You've came to the right place and were glad you can join. Hopefully you'll like it here and stop by often. It's nice meeting you and have a wonderful New Years! Regarding to your situation, no I haven't been in the same spot you're in. Wait....yes, yes I have. Plenty of times. What I usually do is just explore to see which gender I am attractive to/get along with more (girls of course) which leads me to thinking about girls and girls only. Now, I am debating wether I am bisexual or a lesbian. Some days, I would be thinking if I really do like boys as much as I think/say I do. Did this makes sense at all? I'm all over the place. :/
No worries ForeverYoung!! Thanks for welcoming me, even that made me feel better I've been looking for something like this online for ages and it definitely feels like i've come to the right spot Hope you have a wonderful new year too!
I think I went through something similar. At first I thought I was bisexual, despite the fact I checked out guys way more than I did girls. It felt like it was easier and less complicated to be with girls than with guys but after a while I realised being with girls just didn't feel fulfilling or honest. Anyway, that's just me. You may not have found the right guy and could indeed be bisexual. My advice would be to go with the flow, discovering your identity (imo) takes time and comes with experience Welcome to EC btw, enjoy!
raiden04, what you said about it being less complicated to be with girls that sounds exactly like me, so it's good to know i'm not alone. I've been struggling with this for years, i never knew a place like this existed online so it's great thank you!
Welcome! I've been in the same position as you...I had been with more men than women, hoping that one of them would fulfill me in the way I wanted. I kept chasing men, hoping to find the right one so I could be "normal". After a failed marriage and attempting to date afterwards, I realized I definitely was a lesbian. My advice is to go with your gut feeling about who you're most attracted to. I know I wish I had sooner, I would have saved myself a lot of heartache.
Ah, thank you so much. This is immediately making me feel better, knowing that i'm not alone. Everything you are describing sounds exactly like my situation. I'm going to try definitely to listen to my instincts more and not go with whatever is 'easy' if it doesn't feel right.
And you! Thanks for the welcome! So how long has everyone been here and what do you like best about EC?
No problem Fappiness, anytime! I've been a member of the EC community for about 3 months , almost 4. What I enjoy about EC is that everyone is friendly towards each other, though we're all here regarding to similar situations in LGBTQIA. How about you?
I love how I feel so involved and at home here! It seems like a really great community even though I've only been here a few days
I've been here since January 10th of last year (so almost an entire year now, wow!) and I like that everyone here seems so open and expressive. ^^ We have some interesting and funny conversations. EC gives me a place to be completely out of the closet with my orientation and make friends with other LGBT+ people. I like that I can relate to other lesbians here, too. It makes me feel a lot less alone. ^^
