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Hi, from an older newbie!

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by nwsa, Jan 18, 2015.

  1. nwsa

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    Hi,
    I'd just like to introduce myself, i'm a 44 year old bi guy. What set the train of events that led me to be here is that my stepson (who was 22 at the time) told his mother (my partner) that he was bisexual back in august. Anyway since then, I have been thinking of the past and my own sexuality. I have sort of dropped some hints about my sexuality to my stepson, maybe because I suddenly felt able to share who I am. I then gave myself away accidentally with a (slightly drunk on chistmas night), but honest reaction to a photo of a guy he was in contact with. I came clean with him a few days later, and he is cool and understanding. I am happy with my personal life, though my partner is probably not ready for the news, but I just feel like sharing my thoughts, thanks. :slight_smile:
     
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    As an older (57) newbie myself, welcome. I just came out to my husband yesterdayand I feel relief and some calm. Got a lot of support here.
     
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    Thanks oldladynewlez, hope you're coping ok.
     
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    Hello and welcome to EC! :slight_smile: :smilewave:
     
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    Welcome! There are quite a few older members, and it seems many also have families and children. Ironically, I learned from my landlords that the husband's brother is also gay, which must have been a shock to their conservative Mormon mother (though eventually she accepted him :slight_smile: ).
     
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    Hello and welcome, nwsa! It's great to hear that you have come out to your stepson and that you have set off on the mysterious journey of coming out. I hope you'll eventually complete this journey and that you'll tell us how mighty things are! Until then, I wish you all the best.
     
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    wow.. that's pretty tough.. welcome to EC.. :slight_smile:
     
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    Thanks for the nice comments :slight_smile:
     
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    Hello from across the pond and welcome to EC! :slight_smile:
     
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    Welcome Nwsa :slight_smile:
     
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    Welcome nwsa....hey, being a little confused seems to be pretty normal. There are some who absolutely know what they are and others that are unsure. You seem a little unsure, but are going in the right direction. Since your stepson has already come out to his mother, it might make it easier for you...at least it would provide a "lead in" to the conversation...ex. "You know when "Mark" shared with you how he felt about his sexuality...well that's really made me honestly reconsider my own orientation....(rest of conversation) I don't know if that would be good or bad, but you could consider it. Best of luck to you and your family and remember, you have a family always here on EC.
     
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    Hello!
    Im an older newbie as well.Ill be 40 this year.I expected the majority of members to be quite young so its nice that theres a wide age range on here