Hi, Firstly I am really glad that I found empty closets as it feels a really safe place! I am from Solihull, married for nearly 20 years and have two great kids. I knew I was gay at a very early age and had a boy friend at college. I went to University prepared to tell everyone I was gay but never found the courage. During my second year I met a girl who I feel in love who eventually became my wife. The knowledge that I am gay never went away. Over the past few months the pain of hiding it has become too strong so I told my wife a week ago. I don't want to leave her our break up our family but really wanted to let her know that I do have very strong feelings for guys (although I have not really acted on them). Anyway that is me! Please don't judge me.
Welcome to Empty Closets. On this forum you will find many guys (and girls) in exactly the same position as you - some have decided to stay with their wives (or husbands) and some have moved on. It's really up to you to decide what is best for you and your family and nobody here will judge you, one way or the other. Whatever you decide to do, we are here to offer help, support and friendship. Like you, I'm in the UK, but we have thousands of members scattered around the world. Join in and talk to us.
Welcome, I hope you find the advice and comfort you need. I sure have. I really feel for your situation, I am still coming out of a 21 year marriage. I however, have always recognized I was bisexual. That I have attractions, both physically, and emotionally/romantically. There were other reasons for the break up of our marriage, but staying true to my self, and true to my vows of monogamy were in conflict. I should have explored these feelings with my therapist before throwing my life into the wood chipper. It may have taken longer, but it would have been healthier for all involved. Good for you, talking to your wife before acting on it was a smart choice. Very brave and courageous.
