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Hi from Oz - older, married and not out

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by aussie paul, May 19, 2007.

  1. aussie paul

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    Hi all, greetings from east coast Australia. It's becoming cooler here in Sydney. As you see in my profile, I'm married and bisexual. When I was first married 10 years ago in my early 40s, I felt happy and very Hetro, very straight. We both were aware of my male attractions and M2M sex of the (then) past. In the past it was to remain. We believed that I wasn't really Gay, just that I hadn't had a girlfriend for a long time and had never married. (Wonder why??) Well, we both know now that I'm Bi, so I'm attracted sexually to both men and women. For me it's more towards men than women. However, my wife and I are committed to eachother despite our orientations, she is definitely quite Heterosexual too. Apart from that, I want to be Out and live a more socially Gay life, if not acting it sexually. That is not possible within our marriage and in my society. It'd be more difficult for me to be out to friends and family and workmates than for me to stay in the closet. So frusrating at times.
    Well, enough. any comments welcome. Oh, and I don't understand this stuff WW , ); and other emoticon symbols. :confused: :eusa_doh:
    Paul.
     
  2. Double Dubya

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    Hi Paul! :smilewave It sounds like you found the right place. EC is the best place for help from genuinely great people. I haven’t been here very long, but I have felt very welcomed and have received a tremendous amount of aid and support with my transition from “straight Wade” to [Na na na na na] “GAY WADE!” (My new theme song from previous posts). I really hope you get what you need.
    Good luck!
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    WW are my initials
     
  3. Jamie

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    oh not another aussie... we're overrun with them :wink:

    Just kidding... welcome to the site Paul, take a look around, feel free to speak your mind (I do) and I hope that it can help you as much as it has all of us.
     
  4. Kimi

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    Hellow and Big Welcome from me(!)

    Like Double Dubya said, there are many people willing to help and support each others so if you need some opinions or whatever this site is very good place to do:thumbsup:

    Hope you like this site because this is my favorite site!!!!
    See you around:smilewave
     
  5. TeeBe

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    Hello hello! and welcome! This is a great site, glad that you found it!
     
  6. jayden

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    hi im a aussie to welcome from me jayden
     
  7. Paul_UK

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    Hi Paul, welcome to EC! :slight_smile:

    There are several people here in a similar situation to you, so I'm sure you'll get some good advice and support here. I'm pleased you found us.
     
  8. aussie paul

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    hello and thanks to all who have welcomed me here, and to all who may do so overnight. Paul
     
  9. Jim1454

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    Hi Paul. Welcome to EC. I also found myself in a similar situation. I've recently separated from my wife, which has been a very difficult transition. Looking foreward to hearing more from you.
     
  10. blake21

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    hi and welcome