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Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by aindrias, Feb 5, 2015.

  1. aindrias

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    My name is Andrew, but people usually just call me 'you' or some other name that isn't Andrew, e.g. David, Alan, etc. I am 21 years old. My username, AindrĂ­as is my name in Irish - I don't speak Irish and I usually hate when people use their Irish names online when they don't even speak Irish, but I couldn't think of another username.

    About 2 months ago, I admitted to myself that I am gay. Before that, I told myself that I just wasn't a sexual person. I think, sexually, I am not normal - I don't know if it's a physical thing or if I just didn't develop properly, mentally. But I think I do fall under the gay label.

    I am out to no one, yet. I think people know, though. I am probably quite effeminate - I think I'm more concerned about the fact that I'm effeminate than the fact that I'm gay. I'm terrible at making friends, and that is probably at least partially due to feeling inferior around other boys. But then again, maybe I enjoy feeling inferior - I lead a very boring life, so drama in any form is welcome. I think I would like to come out to someone, but there's no one to come out to right now. I don't want to come out to my family because I think it'd be a bit of a joke to them, and I just don't feel any need at all to include them in that part of my life.

    The reason I signed up here was because sex and all that stuff is foreign to me. I have no idea about any of it. I hope there are people on here who are as inexperienced as I am so I don't have to feel stupid about asking stupid questions.
     
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    Hey Andrew, welcome to EC!

    Feel free to ask any questions you might have, and do not be afraid if they "seem" stupid. It is perfectly ok to not know something! Just ask :wink:

    Welcome!
     
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    Hey aindrias, welcome to EC!

    You came to the right place, to learn but also to teach. So don't hesitate to share what it is for you to come out to yourself: the one person to whom it was most important to come out!
     
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    Hello and welcome :slight_smile:

    Take part... ask questions... people like to help


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    Did you have a look at the term transgender ?
    Transgender is an umbrella term, including people being androgynous, etc... in fact its quite a spectrum.

    You might have a look here:
    Am I Transgender or Transsexual - Teens Wonder Am I Transgender or Transsexual

    I'd say take your time...
    and if you have questions, just ask... people will try to support you...

    Welcome again.
     
  5. aindrias

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    Thanks. I'm not transgender. When I was younger, I went through a phase of wishing I were a girl, but now, I'm glad I'm a boy. I just wish I were more masculine - it's kind of a childish/insecure thing, but I think it's the defining issue in my life.

    Thanks, everysomeone.
     
  6. aindrias

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    Thanks. I'm not transgender - when I was younger, I went through a phase of wanting to be a girl, but now, in glad I'm a boy. I just wish I were more typically male.
     
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    hello and welcome <3
     
  8. jay777

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    Well, this is what some tg people go through... trying to be something they basically are not... till they find out its not what they are...

    I'd say just try to be who you are... there are a lot of people not fulfilling gender roles etc...
    it can be even fun, styling and dressing as you like...

    hugs
     
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    Hello and welcome to EC! :slight_smile:
     
  11. aindrias

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    Thanks. Dia dhuit, everysomeone.
     
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    Hi Andrew! I just wanna say that you're not at all alone in there. I don't have any sexual experience at all and I can't really imagine myself in that kind of situation. lol
    Just be yourself and hang out with the right people. Its okay to open yourself to others, there's a lot of support out there. Just be sure to do it in your own time. I've been in the same stage where I wish I was more masculine, and I tried, truly, but I got tired and I just started to be who I am. It feels so much better. And it will get better. Have a good day! :slight_smile:
     
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    welcome <3