Hello people of the internet! I am a 21 year old cis-male, and I'm currently dating my best friend. I met her in high school, our freshman, year, and we finally got together our senior year. We were very good friends all through high school, and when we finally started dating, it just made sense. Three years later, we are still very happy together, and are actually moving in together in June. To top it all off, I have a plan to propose to her. All I need is money for the ring. Now the tricky part. Since I was about, 16, 17, somewhere in there, I've had...feelings...for some of my male friends and just some dudes I see who, let's face it, are damn hot. I never acted on these feelings with anyone (I did in the privacy of my bedroom, with myself on multiple occasions), but never really thought about it. Now I'm starting to wonder. I find myself ogling men with some frequency now. Don't get me wrong, I am still very much attracted to women, and especially my girlfriend. (Like rabbits, us.) But it's all a bit confusing, and I'm looking for a place where I could perhaps talk to some people, kinda figure things out a bit. Lo and behold, EC. Long intro aside, I am here. Hello.
Welcome to EC There are many experienced people here, so you will definitely find your answers. You should write about your problem in a new thread, here: Sexual and Romantic Orientation - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender people coming out
This is a great place for questions! Welcome. Have you spoken with your girlfriend about these feelings?
No...haven't really spoken with anyone...I feel like I should at least try to figure things out for myself before I go talking to everyone about things I'm not yet sure of...
Hello and welcome! Congratulations and good luck with the proposal, hope you get the money soon. I'm glad things are going so well for you, even though we don't know each other. You'll surely find what you're looking for in here.
Update! I have determined, with some assuredness, that I am in fact Bisexual. And I told a friend of mine, who is marrying HER lady this summer. I feel freed by this. I feel like, for the first time, I finally understand, completely, who I am. It's quite liberating.:icon_bigg:icon_bigg:icon_bigg
I feel so wonderful! Everything in life makes sense! Frustrating part is, I talked to my first male crush, and he said that if I had realized in high school, we might have gone out. Goddammit.
Well since I go by androgynous and came out as a transgender male me: walks in the hall for random reason random person: oh my god that guy is so gay hmm how i'm I going to explain this the funny part of all of this is I'm not even a male to be called a gay man I swear I've heard people say I had so called gay swag oh so sorry hello
